Questions: Relationships

28F, my mom & I have always went through periods where we stop talking for a few weeks/months. Back in 2020, we got in a big fight & didn’t talk for a little over a year. I finally began talking to her again & we got back in an argument for the first time since Dec 2022. That was squashed after a weekend & got in another argument this Tues. It’s usually over petty things, I can be very argumentative & a good amount of the time she tries to rekindle. In 2020 I was living alone & I moved back in with her Nov 22. I don't know if we went a good amount of time not fighting bc I wasn’t living with her, I’m older now & hoped things would’ve changed. I really thought they did but I snap very easily, work has been stressful & we’re back to old ways. Bc of this, my anxiety is up the roof & not very content atm. My dad said we have a crazy relationship, mind you he & his mother’s relationship was worse. It makes me second guess if we’re really ok, I feel comfortable with her but we’re equally petty & too alike I guess?

Traditional:

The woman doesn't work or contribute financially. Most of the woman's time is spent on looking good and little time is spent on education or career. The guy works long hours and brings home the bacon. He is responsible for affording everything. Both parties are expected to be somewhat celibate before marriage but especially women. The woman is expected to have kids and cook and clean. The guy is conscripted to the army for a minimum for 12 months.

Modern:

Both parties work and make similar incomes. Both spend same time on hobbies and going gym and sharing housework etc. If they decide to have kids they both take on part time work (3:2 or 2:3 split whichever). Celibacy is not important and both parties had similar # of sexual partners before. Both parties still surprise each other with cute gifts and thoughtful gestures. No army conscription for men.