My boyfriend and I have been dating for 1 year. We are both in this relationship to get married. he has told me he wants to marry me by 2024.š„°š„° (doesnāt have to be exactly if everything is not straight)
Tonight we were having a conversation that kinda turned into an agreement at the end *smh* even though it was hypothetical he asked me what I would do if he told me he wanted to take 3 months to go work on himself and isolate himself because he was mentally stressed or financially. Or anything.
I told him straight up, I would tell him to bounce. he was shocked by my answer. but I believe in us working through things together what am I here for? WE are in a relationship I told him that, him including me with everyone that he needs to get away from and isolate from feels wrong. I called the idea selfish. And he said that I was being selfish cause if it was the other way around and I came and told him I needed 3 months to go isolate myself or work on myself he would tell me okay go ahead. He said the fact that I told him I would give him 3 months to go to another state or country for family reasons was double standard I was picking and choosing when to be OK with it. BUT I believe in being there for each other and being in a relationship and working through things together and finding solutions together. I want to be there for him I donāt know why that makes me selfish or how Iām making it about me I wouldnāt be able to stand him going MIA on me for 3 months to go work on himself. Am I causing the stress? I asked him. he said If he is telling me that clearly. What about if we were married? would he go and be gone for three months because heās stressed.. I donāt know the idea.. is just no for me. He was very shocked at my answer and I was very shocked that he would even think something like that tbh. I told him it would have an affect on our relationship, that Iām an over thinker and he told me what am I over thinking about? He also said I was a red flag for this.