Questions: Relationships

Lauren Franseca. A female youtuber who loves talking about herself, and grabbing people's attention in public, and online.

This question assumes that it is not time for Aunt Flo's visit and that you are not having any health concerns that would require you to dress other than you normally would.

... the men they find desirable as a mate have standards of their own that they simply do not meet?
That these guy can literally pick and choose and dump a girl if she doesn't make the grade. These high calibre guys are greatly in demand and are looking for certain qualities in a woman such as looks, intelligence, age, earning power, fertility, humour, financial assests, financial responsibility, ability and willingness to have kids, can cook, will clean and will look after the kids while he's at work. We High Calibre guys will not settle nor negotiate when looking for a high quality woman. Why should we? After all its a buyers market and you can TRY before you BUY.

Just something I saw on a message board.

agree or disagree ladies?

Ladies.. And I'm mostly interseted in the ladies take on this, but I'll also listen to men..

Briefly, I'm 46 and in decent shape, just getting out of a marriage of 18 years and not emotionally tied up with my ex-wife.. I met a girl who was 32 about 5 months ago, and we started out as friends "Friendzone" and after a few failed attempts I finally broke out of the friendzone (after we actually decided not to see each other anymore, she called me a week later and asked me to come get her)..

Anyway, we dated and she told me she was ok with "Friends with benefits" and didn't really want to call us "boyfriend and girlfriend" or in a relationship... After about 2 months of amazing times and sex, I fell for her.. I began to be needy.. I admit it, and she also told me I was being too needy (mainly in that I always wanted sex, and she would sometimes, especially when she was PMS, not want it at all).. moreover, I got a bit jealous of some of her "guy friends" and in a nutshell, made a few mistakes.. we were up and down for a month or so then about two weeks ago, her sister let her parents know about us, and her parents who are both minsters in a church, pressured her to not have sex with me.. so she told me, "I just want to be friends, no sex".. I told her I don't know if I can handle that, but after about 2-3 days I texted her and said, I'd be ok with being friends... my heart tells me otherwise by the way.. I'm not madly in love, but I am a bit infatuated, and part of me feels like this girl is way younger, and very attaractive and I don't feel I'm going to be able to land one like her again so easily.. plus, as a bonus, in bed we were a perfect fit, down to our prevesions!

So my question is this... Shall I remain friends with her? and try to again get out of the friends zone.. and this time be LESS needy.. give her more space, don't get upset if she talks to other guys, etc? Or shall I just tell her "I can't be just friends, call me if you change your mind, otherwise nice knowing you"

Even her sister told me I was being too needy, and a bit of a doormat.. I was always available for her, and broke a lot of the "rules" of being hard to get, mysterious, etc..

What to do?

The amount of guys who are still virgins, and never have a girlfriend is rampant, and you get some clear incite into this from guys here who state they've never kissed a girl, or are still virgins. More so with boom of cam girl's, many men have opted out in pursuing for a real loving relationship and settle for some random girl being nice to them over the internet in exchange for giving her cash.

Could this article give incite into female hypergamy, and perhaps women's views on what they think qualify as a man to actually be in a relationship with. Many people give reference to the 80/20 rule in which women all coddle around a small clique of men to have sex/relationship with. So when women say they aren't enough men around, are they saying they aren't enough high quality tall,, rich, handsome men around to commit/have sex with them?

What do you think?

A little snippit from the article:

"This got Birger, a former economics writer for Fortune and Money, thinking: How could a man of that age be so cavalier about casting aside such an amazing woman? And why do we all have similar stories of incredible female friends trapped for years in dating hell? Why are there so many great single women? Where are all the great single men?"

Link:https://www.vice.com/read/youre-single-because-there-arent-enough-men-253