Polls: Relationships

I have never been capable of developing an emotional attachment based on appearances or over short periods of time/a matter of weeks or months.. very curious how people can go so far as to commit themselves into serious relationships with ultimately strangers?

28F, I gamed online frequently with two guys for a little over 2 years. We never met in person & over time the two of them stopped playing as frequently. Now I ended up unfriending one in Dec 2022 bc over time I got irritated with him. While he was clearly a better gamer, he came across as arrogant at times & if there’s one thing I can’t handle it’s a conceited man. He wished me merry Christmas, I didn’t answer & he follows up maybe a month after on IG. He acknowledged that I unfriended him & wanted to know why, I was blunt & he apologized etc. It was a mature conversation & shortly after he tells me that his apartment burnt down after an electrical fire. He’s complained about the complex for the whole time I knew him but for it to end that way is absolutely insane. By the time we talked about it he already moved into his new place, confirmed his ps5 was safe & we left it at that. I checked google & there was a go fund me page for he & his wife. This conversation was in Jan this year & we haven’t spoken since, I added him back on the PlayStation app maybe a month later. He’s been online but not as often, we’d usually talk most of the time he was online but he hasn’t reached out & I feel awkward. I see him online & we’re playing the same game too but nothing. It may seem like an obvious AITA post but tbh if he didn’t say that conceited shit when we were still talking I’d very very likely check in with him by now. I haven’t gotten over it completely, even though I accepted his apology 🤷🏻‍♀️

boyfriend and I been together 4 years. No infidelity from what I’ve known. Always had access to his phone to enlist trust but now it’s a habit to go through his phone when I see him which in return pisses him off. His old phone broke, so he is using his old work phone which is an iPhone, got a privacy screen protector (which he had on his past iPhone a while back) and a new passcode. This was unsettling for me so I went ahead and got the new passcode for his phone and looked through it. He’s keeping it simple with not too many apps as I believe he plans to go back to his old phone eventually. I always peer closer to look at his phone when he’s on it so I can avoid the privacy screen protector, although I get the sense he doesn’t like that all the time. He said it annoys him when I question him a lot. For example, he told me his coworkers went to a seafood buffet after work, I asked where and how much the food was and he couldn’t recall and I questioned more which he was not fond of. Am I being too much or my feelings valid?