Some people think if they “have to” ask for anything, it’s proof that their partner doesn’t really care. And that if they truly cared they would think to do it on their own without being asked.
The thought goes that if you really, really care about someone, you anticipate their needs and desires and meet them without any communication necessary. By the same token, not being a “thoughtful” person is akin to being selfish, cold, and uncaring.
Is this you? Do you wait for your partner to notice the little things you like, or drop hints, silently hoping they’ll “get it”? Do you let a birthday or an anniversary go by, miserably, only to complain the next day? Is there a secret test going on that your partner keeps failing?
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