Why is everyone so ready to up and leave? Marriage is supposed to be for better or worse if I remember my vows correctly. one partner doesn't trip and fall into someone else's bed on accident. there's some real issues there. Most likely they have been going on for a while And need worked out.
I'm not going to be the one that blames the faithful spouse but really what have you been doing while your other half is rolling around with someone else? Obviously not working on making your marriage a solid foundation.
I've been married for a long time. I've never been cheated on and have never cheated. I would guess for that I'm lucky.
I can tell you I could know where my husband is at just about any time and he knows where I am and who each other's with. All we have to do is ask! We have full access to each other's social media accounts and phones etc. We don't go snooping through each other's stuff looking to find evidence or any of that craziness but if there was ever a doubt we could easily look. There's no secrets between us but we respect each other's privacy still. I don't want to see whatever porn he's been watching just as much as he doesn't want to see the picture of my sister rash on my phone lol
It seems this generation needs a refresher on what it actually means to be a husband or wife and how much work it is to stay committed before they get that big expensive party and vacation.
That is crazy and I disagree, you shouldn't "let him cheat in peace." Because for one, that's a great way for him to bring diseases back to you, and two it can be more complicated than that. It's not always as simple as I'm leaving, especially if you two share a home, a business, have small children. Perhaps you live in a state where there is no family present. Yes, something should always be done, and in my personal opinion if someone cheats on you then LEAVE! Yes! Absolutely! There is no excuse for cheating. None. But some people aren't willing to just end things. You can either leave, or work on your relationship to try and resolve the issues. However, if your man or woman cheats on you, and you choose to stay, and they continue to cheat on you, you do not have the right to complain and be angry. You know what is happening and you choose to be with them. Do you have the right to know? Of course. But do you have the right to complain? Not really.
'cheat in peace' makes it sound like what he did was acceptable and you don't need to ask him anything.
I don't know if knowing who it is helps. It could make it worse or it could possibly make you understand some reasoning. But you have a right to be upset, to talk it through and to know some reasons why. I know if, deep down, you feel like you'll never accept cheaters anyway, then it could make sense what she said, but you never quite know the right course of action or quite how you'll feel about something and how much *they* are dedicated to you and their feelings until you're in that situation.
I think Toni 's mums reaction is quite an old fashioned view implying women (and children) should just be nice and seen but not really heard.
This cheating business with women leaving men for cheating is crazy. I mean a celebrity can't run that fast. Everywhere they go women want to have sex with them. I'd say women accept it and men accept it if it's the woman cheating. Unless it's some emotional situation where the other partner wants to be with someone else emotionally that's different. For the most part , cheating is just people having sex but emotionally the cheater still wants the person that they are in a relationship with. Too many broken marriages with people blowing cheating out of proportion. No lie , sex does get stale with anyone after a while no matter how hot they are so bringing a little spice into the sex life with other partners whatever is not a bad thing. Society just has everyone just so brainwashed that it's one man for one woman for life. That is not reality. I mean guys are like I'm signing up for life sentence! If I cheat I risk divorce and lose everything! That's whay marriage rates are declining.
I agree.
But i would rather say dont say shit if your the problem in relationship wonder if hell leave you. Because the will come at the hour youd not expect when he will move on.
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I say it depends. If your married, it is within your right to divorce. But one should always work on their marriage and try to access what happened that led to cheating. Dating, however, I don't have much of a say. People chose to have premarital sex, so that is their burden to bear if they don't wait. It's not illegal to cheat. But you don't own anybody either. Cheating hurt regardless. I overall think she has the right idea, but she is flat out wrong. If she wants to leave, she has the right. But she doesn't have the right to tell somebody to stay or go. That is their decision. She can only advise in this area. How one chooses to date and whom will affect their future. I said it once. I'll say it again.
If you want to ask you have a right to ask, regardless of what you plan to "do about it". Of course ideally you should leave a cheating partner, but that doesn't mean you are under some sort of obligation to not ask them if they are cheating unless you are determined to leave.
No don't let someone cheat on you in peace cause that's just letting them get away with wrong doing, but I understand whats being said here. Once you find out someone is no longer being faithful to you, it definitely time to pack up and leave.
Someone who is cheating on you won't admit obviously. But if you are sure and know that someone is cheating on you "If you're not ready to leave, let that man cheat in peace..." this quote is true, though it is not too logical to pretend everything's fine.
I agree you should be ready to do something about it. What the something is exactly I don't know. But I don't think you should confront without evidence bc what cheater will actually tell you the truth just because you asked if you have no proof. Maybe 1 in a million. I love Toni Braxton by the way. Sucks she is too ill to tour like she used to
That's just a burden on you. If you're going to do something (even if it's not leaving but it's confronting him and telling him to clean up his act) then absolutely! But if you plan to let him keep cheating anyways then why even know? Wait until you're ready to confront him to ask
It makes sense to me. Ill never forgive cheating. EVER.
Most people that dont leave are willing to forgive and hope that calling them out for their betrayal will make them stop and never do it again. Even if by some miracle that is the case; It usually leads to months of untrust and simmering anger that causes drama and stress, torturing you until you inevitably break up anyway.
I don鈥檛 want to say I agree but I understand what she was saying. Lot of women argue and get upset because of another woman in their man鈥檚 life but still stay or think they鈥檙e better than the other woman because they have the title. You let a man walk over you once, he鈥檚 going to do it again. So yeah... if a woman isn鈥檛 prepared to leave, why stress yourself out and look stupid in the process?
It would be a burden to keep that in mind and not do anything about the cheating habits with another woman in order to keep him, bad idea! I always spoke my mind, no wonder I am still single today. hahah I m still gonna walk out the door when I find out he actually lain with her. His shit ain't mine anymore.
It makes sense. It would just make u look like a fool if u asked if he cheated then he said yes and then u cry and he says sorry and then it would be alright.. :)
I鈥檓 almost certain the guy I鈥檓 seeing is doing something shady. For now I just ignore it because he鈥檚 the only one I have to hang out with. Honestly I expect shady stuff from guys
"Let the man cheat in peace" is what I disagree with.
I don't know if I found out someone was cheating on me, you bet your ass I'll confront them right away.
If someone's cheating on you and you don't leave (idc what gender you guys are) then you're a dumbass.
I would definitely keep it to myself and get an action plan first.
I agree with her, if a woman cheated on me I would LEAVE.
Irrelevant. She should know regardless.
I want to cheat in peace too!
I agree. You need a clear action plan
It's true, it will cause jealousy and mistrust
Makes sense, I agree.
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