Polls: Relationships

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I still drive too fast, listen to my music too loud, an drink too much coffee. I have made a few mistakes, and had great success. I don't take myself too seriously, but don't think I don't have my act together, cause I seriously do.

I love outdoor activities, from paddling, biking to hiking. I am not at my all time best , but in excellent health, far from unfit with good longevity genes.

Truth is ladies, my kids are grown, and I am an untethered free spirt. So let's get up and out together.

When meeting a girl for the first time for intimacy what's the safest and best way to keep the body hair as a man especially in the case he is very hairy bodied?

I've never had a friends with benefits relationship so I have no firsthand knowledge of how they work, but I have read many, many posts from participants and I hear a very repetitive theme: one of the participants entered the relationship with the hope for something more serious but did not initially express that feeling. Later, they became frustrated or disappointed when the other partner had not developed a similar feeling for them.

Have you ever been in a friends with benefits relationship where that happened?

In general I notice women tend to casually throw “oh he’s my friend” or “we’re friends” more quickly and easily then men do in similar social interactions. Guys usually are much more careful on who we become real friends with vs. just being friendly. There is a difference.

The acid test is this. Could you give the keys to your house and trust this person to go into your room when you’re away? I could trust a friend but not someone I’m just “friendly” with. Also how far would you go out of your way to help this person.

You can be “friendly” with the following types of people but real friends:

- an ex boyfriend/girlfriend.
- a neighbor (in most circumstances)
- an authority figure
- someone who’s attracted to you but you don’t feel the same about them (or vice versa)
- an acquaintance you just met.

Why is that women particularly young women are so quick to throw out “we’re friends” label when they have not yet built up real trust and/or loyalty to the other person? When men hear another man say this it’s confirmation some real trust/respect is established between each other. But women will throw this out without really being at that point yet.