Why are there so many single mothers?

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Yes. There are single dads. But as you know, much harder and less likely for a woman to detach from what's literally attached to her... unless she likes abortions. This question isn't for abortionists because it doesn't apply ti them so hopefully they have thr common sense not to answer something irrelevant.

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

Women, as a rule, used to be careful who they slept with, and largely only slept with men who they knew had the morals and values to be a father. They had to do this because if they didn't, they'd be left with a child completely on their own.

The government changed all that by enforcing child support. This meant that marriage was much less important - previously, a woman would only get financial support from her HUSBAND, and if she wasn't married, or wasn't a good marriage value, then she'd be on her own. Child support meant that she could sleep with (mostly) any man, and she knows she'd get his money.

And, so, now, not only do most women routinely sleep with men who they KNOW have no interest being a father, or would be horrible fathers, some even intentionally get pregnant to either try to trap that man (which doesn't work) or because they want to have a baby with a wealthy man so they can get huge child support payments. Yes, the latter is the exception, but among a percentage of women, this is extremely common. This is why you have athletes and rappers with 12 baby mommas.

Because of these laws - forced through by activist Feminists - women are deincentivized from vetting the men that they sleep with to be husbands and fathers - now they sleep with known bad boys just because they're hot and exciting, but those men aren't going to marry them or stick around and raise the child. Unfortunately, she can still get money from him, and so women think they'll "win" that way. What actually happens is that a lot of them are raising criminals because their kids (boys especially) have no male role model growing up, and those women find that no decent guy will get into a relationship with her because she has another man's child, so she's now stuck either being alone or with a low-value man. And good men, who would make good husbands and fathers, can no longer find women who have traditional values and haven't slept with 50 guys or who don't already have some other man's kid, so they're checking out of the dating scene completely.

Everyone loses.

HighValue · Accepted Answer

There are a few reasons for it.

1. They have casual sex and get pregnant from a hook up.

2. They get into a relationship where the only reason they are together is for the sex because they are physically attracted to each other, but don't take the time to get to know each other first.

3. The guy finds out that she has an unacceptable past that she hid from him when they first got together. (she is untrustworthy)

4. She stops having sex and being intimate with the guy and since most people have bad communication skills, he cheats instead of discussing the problem before going elsewhere.

5. Once she has a kid she leaves the guy because she really just wanted child support to live for free. Usually this type ends up with kids from multiple different men to get enough income from child support so they don't have to work at all.

It is almost always the result of having bad morals and making bad life decisions. There are a very small percent of single mothers due to the father dying.

After knowing the primary causes of it, I will offer some preventative solutions. Preventative, because once they are a single mother, it is already too late.

1. Don't get involved with someone that has a past of casual sex.

2. She should never have casual sex herself.

3. Get to know someone well enough to know if you have compatible morals, compatible long term life goals, AND that you have at least a couple things in common that you enjoy doing together besides just sexual stuff before ever having sex with them.

4. Don't ignore a partner and deny them intimacy. If there is a problem it needs to be discussed. People can't read minds. Problems need to be brought up and discussed in order to find solutions.

5. Discuss relationship role expectations within a long term relationship before having sex.

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

Its just an extreme likelihood/risk/consequence that comes with premarital sex. I dont really believe in contraception but people know birth control and condoms dont always work yet they’re still willing to have sex without being married, so I dont feel sorry for then if they end up parents before theyre ready. The girl knows or is risking the chance that the guy may not stay around in the end. The guy often knows when a woman isn't ready but talks her into sex anyways and risks getting her pregnant. So i dont feel sorry for the potential deadbeat dad either.  I’m one of the few who would choose the path of potential single motherhood without even needing to have premarital sex again. I want a baby and if I end up just seeking a donor or going through in vitro, so be it. Many dont agree with it but they can just deal with it because if I can afford it and give that kid a good life regardless, I’ll do it.

Apple1996 · Accepted Answer

Most guys don't show their true colors until a baby is actually here. Even within marriages a lot of men check out once they become a dad. Makes sense why women would rather do it alone then deal with a baby daddy that doesn't want to be a real dad.

Tyrael · Answer

It could be they're one of those women who claim they don't need no man. Sadly their kids do need a father, but they're too selfish and proud to realise that.

Or it could be she won them in a custody battle which tends to favour the mother even if the father is an obvious choice as a better provider.

Could be she never told the guy she slept with that she's pregnant, and he's unaware. Any number of reasons. There's always the good old fashioned, father run away.

The_Shadow_Dweller · Answer

The reason for being a single mother can be a genuine one. And are literally infinite possibilities for being a genuine single mother.

And there are other mothers too, who become single mothers just to prove something, or to take revenge on someone as stated by one user.

I don't want to pick any of the above's side. I will pick the child's side here.

A child needs to get information/knowledge from both the parents while growing up. A mother cannot give what a father can and a father cannot give what a mother can.

Although, they can most certainly try. And in most rare cases, can even succeed! But not all.

Hence, I would say, that, the child is the one that faces the most of the losses and that too, unknowningly.

Avicenna · Answer

There are a number of reasons why, but there is a very large overlap with the large numbers of people having kids out of wedlock. The welfare state and increased job opportunities for women also make them less willing to stay in relationships.

Economic instability for men in particular also plays a large part, as well as people who are messed up having kids- their dysfunction leads to single parenthood.

Once a woman becomes a single mom, her chances of getting a stable, suitable partner go down a lot, which often creates an increased cycle of instability. Furthermore, boyfriends of these women are sometimes violent towards the kid (s).

motownplayer2000 · Answer

Because half the time the dads are a piece of shit and don’t want to be in there kids life. And the other half is the mother is a piece of shit for trying to punish a father because she and him definitely didn’t work out, but now she wants to really make it hurt by making him pay child support, and hardly ever giving him a chance to see his children because she knows she would lose them if they spent any long period amount of time with him (obviously not the dead beat dads) but this happens far too often but somehow we alway think the women are saints in that situation. And they are definitely not.

Anonymous · Answer

Hey girls, don't look at us like that. Single mothers have rewarded the father's unacceptable behavior with sex or they fell for being told lies (or bought what they pretended to be, false promises etc...) and so the demand for these types of guys has increased and guess what? So did the supply of these guys.

It's an easy fix, really. Don't reward guys with your time or sex for behaving the way they did and everyone's gonna be happy except them. There are literal courses on how to "bullsh-t" women all the way to bed in just a few dates and I personally know girls, who have committed to them and their tricks. Really? Better believe it.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

It could be from anything that you have mentioned above...
What makes you think that a woman cannot be detached to something that is attached to her, a lot of women would dump their kids as if they were never born and continue their lives normally as if she was never married or got pregnant and delivered a baby in this world!
Don't always blame the men for sh*tty things that women does worst than men!

A father has the same right to his baby as the mother, you cannot tell a loving father that this baby is mine and i have more rights to have the baby cause i'm the mother! Cause this ain't true!
A real man ain't an animal to just F*CK YOU, spread his seeds inside you and than run away!
He does love his baby and wants him/her the same way you do!
A baby should have a father and a mother and they better be together and in love so that the baby grow up in a lovely, happy and peacefull family!

Anonymous · Answer

Could be not knowing about pregnancy. Could be father is out of the picture for whatever reason.

There are cases where the woman doesn't tell them for whatever reason. Women are also more likely to get custody of kids. And if it was a bad break up both parties can use kids like a weapon.

LazerBean · Answer

Mostly because those women don't think ahead and have sex with any loser.

slatyb · Answer

Difficulty of obtaining birth control. It should be freely available in every pharmacy.

TroyDT · Answer

I will get flamed for this, but the two main reasons are no-fault divorce and then the welfare state.

loveslongnails · Answer

This is a complex question and you should research why this takes place. The choices you offered are marginal, at best.

Jennz6 · Answer

I don’t need a man lol

Anonymous · Answer

Because it’s easy to get pregnant.

Jenny-Marie · Answer

I was a single dad and I wouldn't change a thing.

Anonymous · Answer

men only want one thing

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

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