Is this bad a non religious girl that believes that God is just God is dating a very Christian guy?

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My boyfriend has always accepted me for who I am but his mom is trying to invite me to church and everytime that she does I feel very awkward. To me no matter what I do I just can’t see Jesus as God that’s too hard for me to me God is just God I do want to find a religion to follow because when we have kids in the future I wouldn’t know what to do and I don’t want there to be any disagreements. I guess you could say that I’m a bit worried that maybe they’ll be disagreements in the future since we both have different beliefs and no matter what I just can’t see Jesus as God I’m sorry.

Lliam · Accepted Answer

I, personally, think religion is brainwashing or mass psychosis. People are taught to believe things, even when there is no actual evidence. It's a means of control (and profit).

By the way, I was raised Catholic. I naturally assumed that it was reality because I had known nothing else. I liked it. It wasn't until I was in my late teens and early 20s that I started thinking more deeply about it and asking questions. When I tried to get answers, I was told things like "Have faith" or "We can't understand the mysterious nature of God." But I was starting to want facts and logic.

Over the years, I went on to read a lot of books about the history of Christianity, the history of Judaism, world religions, ancient mythologies, philosophy, world history, cultural anthropology, non-religious spiritual teachings, etc.

I wound up being comfortable with my own, personal, spiritual beliefs that have nature and creation at the core. But I have to admit that I don't have much respect for religions. I consider them to be mythologies.

So, honestly, I wouldn't be able to have partner who was religious. It would cause conflict. It would be a fundamental, unbridgeable difference between us, worse than having opposing political ideologies. How could a Democrat who has no respect for Republicans be married to a Republican who has no respect for Democrats?

People who are religious are governed by their dogmatic beliefs. It guides their every thought and action, even though it is not based on provable facts or even logical thought. They just do as they are told. "God is watching," "The Bible says thou shalt not...", "Praise you Lord Jesus", "Allahu akbar", "You will suffer the eternal fiery torment of Hell", ...

I have no problem with people believing what they want. Most people are religious to some extent or another. As long as they keep it to themselves, we're good. But if they have a need to share it with me, they inviting disagreement. I'd rather avoid that because it's pointless arguing when there are no facts on which to base arguments. They can worship Zeus or Ishtar for all I care. But I'm not going to convert to their religion any more than I going to convert to their political ideology.

So, I think you are inviting trouble to date a very Christian guy. And I wouldn't be able to put up with his mother.

bamesjond0069 · Accepted Answer

I am Christian but some of the Jesus centric focus is kind of odd to me as well. NT has far less material to study than OT and thats even before you consider 4 books of the NT are retelling of the same history. There is far more information about God than Jesus in the Bible. Also, Jesus was the perfect sacrifice for our sins. That was his purpose here on earth. All the other aspects of Christianity are about God.

Now a lot of Christians tend to try and read Jesus into literally everything. And of course there is some of it being foretold in the OT but its quite minimal compared to the overall length of the OT. in my opinion the excessive Jesus focus is a tool used to minimize the teachings from the OT which is step 1 towards a progressive Christianity. Progressive Christianity meaning a degradation of Gods word, the words say this but we have "discovered" (made up) new meanings often the complete opposite. 🙃 Jesus is often the main excuse why Christians avoid the OT as out dated when nowhere does it say that at all. Yes specific things have been removed such as the dietary restrictions and the feasts which are explicitly mentioned. As well as the law is not the law anymore but it does say (unfortunately i forgot the verse) that we are to take our moral inspiration still from the teachings of the OT, that has not changed.

Hope that gives you some new ideas in further figuring out your beliefs. I would also suggest trying other churches. Through family i went to Catholic churches which turned me off but later in life i found a highly biblical Pentacostal church that restored my faith. in my opinion the two couldn't be more different! Lastly dont worry so much about other people at the church. 99.9% of your inspirations should be coming through your own reading of the Bible not relying on a preacher or congregation members. Your boyfriend/husband should be your main preacher and lead you in this. That is if you want a coherent family unit. Unfortunately it sounds like he's not doing this. So just read on your own and think of church as more community and less institution.

Oppyy · Accepted Answer

Not at all. People do get in inter faith relationships and they work out well enough

ohshee · Answer

Well what I'm about to say is probably wrong for a lots of people. But I'm not worried about lots of people I'm worried about me I See It My Way and that's because when I was born I was giving a gift from whomever choice I was given that word that ability to make a choice. I've never read the Bible. I don't follow any religion per se. I do believe there is a God the Creator if you look out everything is made us to the finest detail we are perfection the way the human body works not as nice as a people LOL that's because we were given that gift of choice you get to choose everything we do and say every single day that's what makes us us if I go to his church and the preacher tells me I either have to do something I'm going to go to hell just because he's a preacher he does not know that just because he reads the Bible and he reads it and the way he perceives it is the right way I cannot follow anybody it tells me if I don't do it their way I'm going to go to hell. I believe in every denomination I support my friends and what they believe in because that's their choice that's who they are and that's how they see things and I respect that I will listen to them and it's my choice and if I accepted or not every religious denomination has good in it, has beauty in it. Has a powerful message in it so I believe in all denominations to a point I believe in a God to a point I believe in Jesus I believe everything has a reason I believe every story that we here there is a meaning behind it to show us the teacher something positive not negative no matter your denomination or who you want to believe in or what you believe in for me the most powerful thing is respecting and believing in my friends and the choices that they have made that's more powerful than anything

ZackBan · Answer

I'm actually shocked how your parents let you convert at 14, they never seemed like the open minded understanding type and when it comes to religion people tend to be even more firm.

But to answer the question: it's not bad to date a guy from a different religion even if he's a practitioner but you should not be compelled to go to church with his mom who probably thinks she can show you the light of Jesus's face somehow and get you off your path of sins.
Just politely turn her down and tell her that you are not a Christian she will have to live with that sooner or later

CindersFire · Answer

I wouldn't say it's bad, and I would say you believe in god stops you from being non religious. Obviously your boyfriend doesn't really care, so I would just tell his mom that, "you appreciate her offer to join her, but church just isn't for you. We all have different ways of feeling connected with god and that church just isn't yours. One day it may change but that days not today or in the near future," as to your own "lostness" perhaps a change of reference may help. For me I'm not sure i believe that Jesus was god or anything like that, however for me following his teachings method of trying to be a good, moral person walking a path god would appreciate. Obviously that may not be true to you and you have to find your own path, and I wish you well on it.

TheBigGuy9 · Answer

Jesus isn’t God. Jesus is son of God. He died for our sins. It is only through Jesus Christ that we can get to God. The best advice I can give you is read the King James Bible. God wanted to make sure that people believed the Bible is truly the word of God, so it was written by 40 people over the course of 1600 years. Just think of the language and word usage over time. In just 50 years, people use different words. It’s easy to see, but this? Not one question.
Just read Genesis. The cool part about it is that it connects with everything in human life. Things will start to make more sense. Also, it in no way has you appease God. Not like other religions that tell you that you have to do x to make such God happy. The Bible is basically about a friend telling his story.

Wiredone · Answer

You have to do what you feel comfortable with. When you have kids, you and your boyfriend should agree what religion, or no religion to raise them in. It's not the choice of his or your parents. We don't practice religion or go to church in my family. It was our choice.

alance99 · Answer

I think its totally fine if you dont follow any religion and your boyfriend's family is religious but they shouldn't force you or anybody to follow their religion and you should let your kids decide what they want to follow or not like your parents let you decide 🙂

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

You can't see Jesus as God because you're extremely ignorant of God and only desire to see things from your human perspective which is also extremely limited.

You don't get to decide nor dictate how God operates or do what He wills.

God can transform Himself into an apple if He so desires and ain't a damn thing you can do about it.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I've visited many Churches ( Baptist, Nazarene, Gospel Assembly, Catholic Church ) I often thought about turning Catholic , I would say do what you want :)

backblueblack22 · Answer

Huh this is different. What part of the world are you in?

Starman5 · Answer

I suggest you become a full Muslim. Jesus is not god. of course i respect and believe in him too but jesus is not god. i am Muslim

TallAnon · Answer

"Is it bad", according to who? That's very subjective. If you are fine with it and your boyfriend isn't complaining, all's good, no?

Iuvtacos · Answer

My take on this is that people should do what they want in religion. DONT push your beliefs onto other people period !

Abdulwahh · Answer

To be honest im not christian im muslim but he's moms right she want offspring that are a righteous toward gos

Jamie05rhs · Answer

He's "very" Christian? Are you sure? Lol

Diamold · Answer

The fact that you want to find a religion for your future kids is very disturbing

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

I'm so lost you don't believe in god or you do

Iron_Man · Answer

I talk to you about this before and Jesus is God

EaterPeter · Answer

Yes it's bad.

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