If your single, could it be an act of protection from God?

[jennifer_bloom]

During the time where I was religious, it seemed like God sabotaged every opportunity I ever had to go on dates with guys. The 1-4 year period where I stopped seeking God in a consistent way, it seemed like God stopped sabotaging my chances to talk to guys, but once I became religious, God began to sabotage all my opportunities again. For some reason, it seemed God thought I was better off single for most of my life. I don’t know if God has somebody in mind for me, or if God wants me to achieve and gain something before I marry.

[SaRang21]

This is interesting. I have this same thought too.
Well I have had many failed “dates”, either people I liked never asked me out or the people that liked me I didn’t want to be with them. Or once I decided to be with someone who liked me but I didn’t like him but I decided to give him a chance because I thought God wanted me to be with him, we dated for 3 days then something happened and we broke up.
I believe God also protected from causal sex, once I had a friend who I almost ended up being friends with benefits, I almost did it but suddenly the guy I very liked in the popped up in my mind so I stopped going any further.
Almost every time I’m about to do something or be with someone, something will happen.


Looking back, I was naive and immature, I didn’t know what love is supposed to be and I don’t have a good concept of marriage.


I wanted to marry someone I was infatuated with, I wanted marry for money etc… it’s not love. I think I’ve learned a lot of lessons and I must learn a lot of lessons before I finally meet my future husband. Marriage is hard work. If I’d got married any sooner, my marriage would have failed and I would have regretted it as I had no concept of what true love is.


God plants love in our heart, pray that He put true love in your heart for your husband so that your marriage can last.
I feel like I’ve grown a lot and learned a lot from my failed love affairs in the past, most of those weren’t even love and I think I would have regretted rushing into a relationship later in my life.
I still believe there’s something called timing and preparation. I believe God also has someone for me but before I eventually meet him, I’ll have to learn my lessons first. Even though I’m still scared of what will happen but I think I’ll just have to go with the flow and believe that God is in control

[megzs16]

He has a plan for you and has had it before you were even born. Maybe he's wanting to teach you things before you meet the right guy. Or maybe the right guy is being worked on by God and it's not the right time for God to Introduce you to the guy because the guy isn't ready yet. We don't know what God is doing or why he does it. Our only job is to have faith and trust his plan. Hope this helps!

[strateguy632]

to meg only? we must act... god helps those who try to help themselves. correct to try to find.

[ohsheeT]

God didn't sabotage anything God does not make the decisions for you God give you choice you make the decisions for yourself you already know down deep into your heart where you're headed where you're going what you want in life so you don't really sabotage yourself you give yourself an opportunity to make choices you are the one that made your choices sabotage didn't it's okay to believe what you believe in if that's the way you believe in it but you should understand God is only given the rules he gave you choice he gave you life and he wants you to lead it how you see it at the end of it there will either be a judgment or you have already judged yourself you can have both the church and your boyfriend and then you have other choices that follow from there I don't know your beliefs and whatever they are they're great that's who you are nobody can judge you except for yourself if you sin you sin that's something that we all have to deal with including myself be responsible that's all good I think he's asking you to be he already knows the Temptations you already knows where we're all headed where we could have that's why he gave his choice he also gave us a way to fix it doesn't mean go out and do it because you know you can fix it it just means it happens what you learn from it is how you deal with it you already know who you are in life become that person you haven't been put on this planet to waste your time been put on this planet to experience things to gain knowledge to take with you to help other people it's a hard balance to do whatever you have to do do whatever you can to be the best you can you can't have success without failure failure is just as important and success because you can't have one without the other

[MementoMori777]

I personally don't go by my own understanding, I trust his guidance and I will continue following it until I die, after all, earth isn't my home, I belong in heaven, earth is my job, it's why I personally try not to make it about myself if I know I got a job to do down here, if God wants me to find love he will give it to me but I will not fall into the worldly things because my emotions are trying to drag me down, I'd say this is a good example of how you should think as well, which Satan uses your emotions against you by the way, don't let the lies Satan whispers in your ear effect your faith and trust in God, after all I'm sure you are counting your blessings and those chances God has "ruined" for you, most likely saved you pain, I'm sure you've seen how people on here get tortured by people out there, you call it ruin, I call it saved your ass.

[Fanfare690]

Whats with the state of confusion thi

[Fanfare690]

Tho*

[MementoMori777]

Wdym?

[strateguy632]

but what about the idea god wanted people to marry? it would not match his will to claim he decreed you to be single.

[MementoMori777]

Do I look like God to y'all? I'm not saying she isn't going to marry, my paragraph is just to tell her not to loose trust in God because she feels unmotivated in finding love, I never said God was decreeding her to be single, that's what you took my paragraph as, I'm simply telling her to trust God and his guidance.

[AnaMay18]

I see it as protection not sabotage. There are soo many diseases and sex to most people is not as sacred as it should be. I'm all about waiting as long as you can ans being monogamous and find a partner that wants me not my looks. Having sex outside of marriage can lead to unwanted pregnancies, pain and STDs for life. So I would say that when your soul is on the path of light and you are acknowledging God he more protects you and keeps you on your souls true path without any unwanted distractions heartache babies or sadness. Just my opinion. I love God and find we live in a world where people think it's cool to not believe in God. So to be a believer in One God is very special and to be on the pathway of light and not be distracted by men is awesome. Again just my opinion. I dated from age 13 to 28 and finally after 15 years of long relationships am finding myself and learning to love me and not just do what some guy wants me to do (have sex and be his sex toy.. id rather read or write or go for a walk these days but could be I'm sexed out) I now want to wait until marriage and want sex to be sacred that I am back to being a soldier of light and a child of God. Take care. :)

[Steelcore5280]

For me, I believe it may be a possibility. There's a song called "Unanswered Prayers" by Garth Brooks that fits well with this whole thing.

I like to think that we create our own plans, and that God a lot of times laughs at us, as He has a different plan in mind for us.

[Yannishka]

Why would God monitor billions of people's relationship status after the first too screwed up?
He lets things play out. That is why some of us are single and some are not. People in a relationship get lucky or get in an unhappy relationship... if they didn't get lucky they judt chose to do something about their relationship status.

[Count_de_Monte_Volo]

First, make sure you know that in modern society we are over-advertised couples relationships and sex. Government, media and corporations brainwashed us with hyper-sexualization (to sell products and services [in my opinion]). It could easily even be the devil’s work. We often want relationships more than we are supposed to. We should return to whatever the normal amount of expectation is, then ask the same question again.

[strateguy632]

not protection, his will is for people to marry so we need to try to obey with actions not "wait and trust to fate" in song

[TracyF]

Everyone blames God for their failures. It's not his fault you can't get a relationship. Start taking responsibility for yourself. Shifting blame is just immature.

[Ben487]

I don't think God is doing anything. If he exists he is likely not watching everybody and if he is, he is likely not intervening or doing anything at all... just watching the show.

[Christoff92]

Yes... yes absolutely. He gives me tons of Thunder and lightening positive vibes to be single. All I need to do is call out all mighty Thor 😊

[najekim]

It's just you haven't accidentally stumbled across your life's partner yet. No intervention needed.

[AnusNdaPainus]

Not sure sometimes god puts people in our lives to hurt us for character development

[Friendlybro79]

You say God sabotaged your opportunities. How do you know that to be true?

[Jltakk]

My parents believe so. Sometimes I believe so as well.

[dude6006ies]

IMHO not productive to attribute these things to God

[purplepoppy]

But who's god protecting? You or them?

[CB-Raido-Time]

Yes I believe so.

[CB-Raido-Time]

I believe it's God's protection. As a man I look back now and seeing what other men have gone through lost their marriage their children and much worse I can see it now.

[EVERYONEDIED]

Definitely