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What do you think of this?

I saw an episode where a wife wouldn't let their daughter enter ballet school. She suffered a dramatic event of being raped by her former ballet teacher as a kid. Only her mother knew later on but she kept this a secret.

Finally when she admits it to her husband, instead of being supportive... he walks away, scolds her and is disgusted by not being the first man. He was too focused on the ''you're tainted'' part and nearly wanted to proceed with a divorce. His own mother was very ashamed of her son's attitude. Though he only apologized because his mother talked him out of it. He wouldn't have done it on his own account. The former school finally gets arrested when she reports him and he does it to again to the daughter's friend.

Even though it's a ficitious episode, real cases like this does happens. Honestly I would not forgive him. He wanted divorce and his own mother had to talk him out of it. How is being raped being tainted? That's out of someone's control. I would find that attitude and him walking away unforgivable.

My friend called me this week saying that I say unnecessary things & those things take jabs at her. She's a "girl's girl" & some things sound like I'm competing
She gave me 2 examples out of many
1. She said someone was talking to us about shoes & I said I got them 1st (i specifically dont remember that moment, but I'll give it to her because people don't remember things unless it's attached to a filtering emotion)
2. She mentioned how her ex talked & hugged her & I said he does that with everybody
(That I explained as protection cuz they broken up twice & I've had my own breakup in which my ex liked me physically but didn't want to be with me
I know her ex is not extreme like that but I didn't want her to get her hopes up on something he does to everybody
She should look for other signs.) She still said I shouldn't say it like that
I could understand what she means however while we're in conversation I thought that phrase was precise & got my point across quickly & she never brought it up to me until now
How was I suppose to know she didn't like it & how am I suppose to hold a conversation & know which comments are unnecessary
In general conversations are unnecessary unless you need something from the other person (health/businesswise) Then she said she's upset that she keeps having to find out information from my ex in terms of my dad being sick or me being sick (my ex only knows because we still work together & when he ask wya, i tell him) but her schedule is random I don't know when she's sleep, on the road, etc so it's up to her. When I did reach out, it was at the wrong time, so I got tired of doing it. Also when I told her I was sick, specifically what I was going through, it felt like she forgot or didn't look up what's happening to me for herself. And when we went on outings/convos when my sickness played a role in our interaction, empathy wasn't present, so why tell her? Should I let her know or let it fade?