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So my best friend has been feeling down the past month or so and since I no longer live in the same state as her I can’t physically be there for her. But I am also 8 months pregnant and barely have the energy to do anything even working has been a struggle. We didn’t text for over a week, not my fault she just never responded but read my message. Gets upset today because I didn’t check in on her but when I have been she barely responded.

At the end of the day I feel as though if you’re depressed it’s understandable & I’m giving the best advice I can give. But your situation is not going to go above mine when I’m pregnant and she barely checks on me. Plus she isn’t doing anything to get herself out of the depression so it’s not up to me to solve that problem. She hasn’t asked about me, she hasn’t asked if the baby has been okay but wants this title as a god parent.

In a way she tries to guilt trip me saying well our communication isn’t the same since you’ve been pregnant blah blah blah. Like what does my personal life have to do with YOU not responding. And honestly I have no energy to cater to someone else when we’re both grown and I have a husband and a baby on the & work full time.

I always acknowledge her feelings but today I had enough of the pity party bullshit. And when I told her “ I've reached out to you and you rarely respond now I give you space because no matter what I say or whatever advice I give your going to feel how you feel you need work on your shit” I got no response again. Im mot going to kiss ass or pity someone who just expects someone to always be there when they can’t!

SLEEP as in “to sleep per chance to dream”

💤 ~sleep~ cuddle ~sleep ~no sex~ 💤

I’ve spoken with many people who find this very relaxing. But these people are not anxious for sex. I don't know how relaxing it is for the person who really badly wants sex.

Tho some may agree, it can be relaxing even if they want sex, as long as they know for sure sex is definitely not happening.

I’m sure some would agree while nursing a deep hope for more..

if I like someone I’d be ok sleeping next to them or I’d be very happy to depending …as long as I was absolutely assured they really weren’t expecting sex.

i can easily see this being exploited under false pretenses so I’d have to trust them a ton and tres carefully. I’d make sure my roommates are home for example..

I have never had anyone say they wanted to sleep next to me when what they really wanted to do was sleep. And I’ve never said this to an anyone bc I am confident the assumption will be that im speaking in code and sleep is just euphemism for sex.

my guess is despite my vast Herculean emoji efforts😛, many people will not read the body of this post and will assume fork the tiller that the person who doesn’t want to date wants friends with benefits to avoid having sex with someone they know.

I see gag immediately placed it in sexuality😒

It is like to live in a world where this kind of thing could be taken at face value.

actuality I think within the Amish community young people sleep next to each other as part of courtship. But courtship is a huge deal so that’s not a great example I suppose. Respect tho. I think it’s a good idea.

I think in dating people spend so much conscious energy existing themselves trying to be a certain way and present a certain way that much of our authentic self get swept away. While with Sleeping you are who you are… you can’t fake it. Your curations are exactly you. I think it’s a good bonding exercise bed very Informative. Or alternatively, just calming and peaceful.