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From what I've seen in my life, it really doesn't work, the ones I've seen almost always occur from the guy asking her out but she liked someone else more so she said no.

He doesn't give up hope and keeps in contact with her in the hopes that she'll one day be with him (she won't) and the girl uses him for validation. This is very dysfunctional and a terrible situation for one to keep themselves in and to her, he'll always be the guy who wasn't good enough to be with her.

Most girls say yes when I ask if a guy and a girl can be just friends but then when I ask if he likes her, I have yet to receive a "no" answer. Again, supporting my point. Some like to make the case that relationships start out as friendships but then when I probe that comment, again my point is further illustrated when they answer "no" when I ask if they've ever dated a friend.

Furthermore, men and woman are polar opposites in terms of interests, politics, and hobbies that can't be merged together unless it was a love connection in which both parties share their lives together romantically. For that reason, I believe that a man and a woman cannot and should not try to be friends. Although I don't believe in having friends at all as I consider having connections to anyone other than my girlfriend a burden which will only drain me and take time away from me and her together. I also don't consider people trustable nowadays as guys are constantly trying to steal people's girlfriend's and cheat on their own girlfriends as well. So i aggressively avoid bonding with others, sometimes treating others with hostility as a deterrent.

I’ve been A and somewhat B. There was a time in my 20s I got a lot of attention. Lots of women told me I was cute and handsome back then. I could approach any woman and literally say anything and get away with it. I was never aggressive dbag but i could flat out make sexual jokes/remarks back then and at worst a girl would laugh out of amusement (even if she wasn’t interested).

The only time I ever really got turned down back the is if the girl was already taken. But even taken girls would often chat with me and sometimes give out there number (but they wouldn’t respond to texts/calls). I would only find out later they had bfs.

However I did have a few bad experiences. I had two girls actively stalking me in college. I’ve had random drunk women grope me in clubs/bars. I’ve had one woman get angry and trying to shove me when I turned her down. I’ve had other guys try to throw me under the bus out of jealousy. But those incidents were few and far between.

Now I’ve gotten older I’m not the baby faced 24 year old I once was. I am still in excellent physical shape but I‘m not going to go walking around shirtless (unless it’s at the beach or something).

Overall it’s been a lot tougher approaching women. Although I have gotten more aware of their body language and I’ve gotten better at my game it’s insanely tough now. I have very little wiggle room to make any mistakes. If i say or do anything even remotely considered “creepy” it’s game over. It doesn’t matter if it was unintentional or not. Nor does it matter if the girl even knows it was unintentional. I’m being held to a much higher standard.

But I am curious what women honestly have to say about this. I was surprised that some prefer B. I sure as hell don’t.