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Depends, I generally don't really want to hear all of the intimate details. I don't need to know how the sex is, how big it is, shit like that, but sure I've heard details before.
We like hearing the horror stories mostly. The dates gone badly, the weird shit that guys have asked them to do, etc...
I also don't mind when these women ask for my opinion as a man. I can generally tell them whether or not a guy is taking them seriously, things like that. If they are overreacting, what he might be thinking stuff like that. Sometimes they will listen, mostly they don't and just do what they wanted to.
What they don't want is you calling them crying on the phone with your problems, that's for your girlfriends. Women want us to just sit there and listen, not solve anything, just absorb all of their negative energy and men don't like that shit. Unless you are my girlfriend, go to someone else for that.
I feel like that covers it pretty well. I feel like if we don't ask, we don't really care lol.
It depends on your relationship with him, how he feels about you, but I would say generally speaking no. It really depends not only on the guy, but many circumstances so I'm not surprised this is almost 50/50. Just ask him if he's ok with you talking to him about it. Then you'll know.
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When it comes to relationships there's only a few things I need to know about a woman's previous relationships before we do anything serious
#1 are they interested in any other men
#2 do they still talk to their exes if so which ones
#3 do you have an STD
#4 is there any emotional damage you've suffered because of a previous relationship?
#5 should I expect any trouble from any of your exes
That's about it
I don't care if a woman talks to any of her exes that doesn't bother me honestly like she can as much as she wants I just want to know who they are because I want to make sure they don't make any moves on her because guys will do that or at least some guys will definitely not all guys but some guys are just that kind of guy
I don't think I need to explain why I'd want to know if my girlfriend has an STD or not
I would want to know about the emotional damage because I wouldn't want to cause any problems and I would also want to help her because if we're a serious relationship then obviously I care about her which you help people you care about
And the reason for number five is simply because some people are crazy and you never know what they're going to do especially when it comes down to relationships
If you have a female friend, can she talk to you about guys and dates?
Yeah?
A female friend is just one of the guy and you always help out the guys
Then don't seek or expect affection / validation / emotional support from 'one of the guys'
Huh?
Did I say soy wrong?
Something wrong
Fuck I'm an idiot XD
My first reply is based around a mistake
I read the question wrong the first time around XD
I won’t “be just friends” with a girl I am attracted to. I might be friendly but not friends. Learned a very hard lesson on that years ago.
However if I am not attracted to her I don’t mind at all. I am also open about my experiences. I got one long time gal pal who is like this and we go into lots of details.
However for you girls out there who think it’s a good idea to tell a “guy friend” (who you know likes you) about your experiences with other men or worse who you like right now…. do not I mean do NOT say that.
He’s a self hating fool to be “friends” with you to begin with. However you are dumping salt in the friéndzone wound if you bring up other guys you actually are interested in. He’s not going to like hearing that no matter how he reacts to it. It’s one of the worst possible insults you can give him.
That"s interesting to know, and I can imagine nobody wants to hear about their love interests' romatic endeavors, it's just depressing. However, women can never assume or know that a guy friend is in fact into her unless they make it clear / ask her out.
When I was younger and a lot dumber I’ve had girls tell me way to much unsolicited. It was agonizing. Made me feel like less than a man and deeply disrespected.
Sure I was an idiot to “hang out” with them in the first place but still it was deeply insulting.
Women know 99.99% of the time the other guy is interested. They can pick it up in his body language and his mannerisms. However they rather keep him at bay and don’t want to point out the obvious. That would require an uncomfortable conversation and the possibility of losing a so called “friend” and all the benefits that go along with it. So they drop “hints” instead.
One hint you should never drop is telling him about other guys your involved in and or have crushes on. That’s going to make him feel like shit. It’s a different story if he first brings up girls he’s interested in (also a sign he’s not that attracted to). But saying this unsolicited is a hard kick in the groin. Very insulting.
Women can't tell and don't like assume especially if she's not attracted to you. Being direct and honest about your feelings is the only solution to avoid awkward situations and misunderstandings. What girl wants to casually and deliberately hurt a guy's feelings she cares about. Only immature ones.
Women have strong intuition and most of the time know the guy is interested. To what extent he’s interested maybe mysterious. But I’ve had women who I was previously sexual with bring up this bullshit. We never had an agreement as “friends only” either.
But as to your point about guys being direct. I agree. I make it flat out obvious nowadays that I am looking to date. Some accept many reject. But at least I let them women know where I stand. Despite that I’ve had few STILL think I was okay with friéndzone bs. When that happens I get pissed.
If we're friends, sure, I mean, part of what guy friends do is drink and bitch or brag about our relationships, a shitty car, how awesome our family is, how awesome our shitty car is. That's part of having a friend rather than an acquaintance. You don't have to worry about judgement unless you touch their bottom line, like you bitch about THEIR relationship, family, or car lol
I don't know about all men but I talk to my male friends about my dating life. And vice versa. Only time I chill on it is if the friend doesn't seem like they wanna talk about it. Sometimes the guy won't really address what I said fr and they'll bring up another topic. Then I'm just like okay fuck it then, I'm probably doing too much. Next topic. That's rare tho and I don't keep those guys around long.
YES! Here is why: Those are coaching gems. So this girl is not yours but the one who is or will be will be treated to all that experienced education. AND I will be prepped for all the behind the scene drama.
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Me " I know what you are doing right now"
Her " Oh wow great to hear from you just when I was thinking of you... what am I doing right now"
Me "Talking to your male friend about how well our date went"
Her "*blush* How did you know... Is he your spy?"
Me " could be. don't trust him"
Any ladies want to use me for after date venting or oozing let me know. I am here for you ( and some experience)
I don’t have platonic women friends that I talk to about this. If I’m talking to a woman consistently/constantly, then it’s a woman that I would most certainly want to get sexually involved with.
Yes I see. Do you make it clear from the beginning, or do women tend to think of you as their guy friend eventually?
Also if a guy texts a girl everyday but never flirts or anything like that, does that mean he genuinely only wants friendship?
They should.
It's unhealthy to view your girl bestie from different angles. Get possessive and shit. I can find it cute initially, but I'll drop the man pretty hard if he starts to get weird about it.
Just so we're clear, i love when my guy friends talk to me about their love interests.
Considering that most of your guy "friends" are probably into you that seems like a rather torture adjacent activity.
Maybe they're into that I don't know. Seems like a dick move. Like bragging about all the water you're drinking to someone dying of thirst lol. Talk about punching down.
Women don't tend to assume or magically know that their dear guy friends are in fact sexually / romantically interested to them, unless you make it and ask them out on a date. So we wouldn't know what we can or cannot talk about to our supposed guy friend.
we certainly don't want to hear If we fancey her,... Ur probably thinking... Why the fuck would a guy be a friend with a girl he fancies... Well intially he was trying to pursue her romantically but realised she wasn't interested too far in and now it's too hard to let go of friendship cos he even values the friendship too
It depends on the girl. Most women and their relationship questions get annoying real quick. Keep it general, don't pick apart single sentence or focus on a single word. Do that, and guys don't mind it.
When does it specifically become annoying? Also, do most men see that as talk reserved for girl friends?
Yes. I'd love to hear about that type of stuff because it not only informs me as to what is going on but I can also give them tips on how to be more on top of their game when it comes to my lady friends dating
Does it at all make any sense when people keep assuming that only gay men would have that kind of talk with their female friends?
Yes as long as she doesn´t compare me to the other guy or tells me to do something just because another guy does it.
I have mostly guy friends but unless one of them has already brought up the topic of crushes and dating or one of them asks me for advice about that I tend to steer clear of that topic because I feel like that's just awkward
I might listen to be polite but I probably won't remember a thing she said.
And would you give your feedback / opinion to her?
Also, why do you think men don't want to listen to that?
Maybe it's kind of a bro thing, not liking to hear other guys criticized. I generally wouldn't offer judgment on a guy a F friend is dating, unless he is abusive or addicted or something obvious. One friend was dating a coke dealer who kept guns under his car seat, but I didn't dissuade her.
So men can do no wrong, and women are on their own to figure them out from experience
It's harder if I'm single and am attracted to her. Mainly because while I want her to be happy, I would want it with me. Now that I am not single, I still want the girl I have a crush on to be happy, but just not with me because that would mean I had to break up with my girlfriend which I don't want. As for girls I'm not attracted to, I still want them to be happy, but never happy with me. As a utilitarian I have to seek happiness for all.
there is no straight man on the planet who is a “friend “with a female... girls seem to think that guys think of them the same way other females do and it is not the case
no guy gives a shit about your personality or your life, if they are interested in you it is because they want to fuck you and they just are either waiting for the perfect opportunity or are too chickenshit to make a move and being your “friend” The the only way for them to have you in their life.
If A guy tells you otherwise he is just simply being a pick me and wants you to think that he’s “different” but his underlying reasoning is 100% the same.
For the women who don’t want to believe this you are only fooling yourselves. there is not a fat ugly female on this planet who has a straight guy “friend“ who will randomly text her just to see how her day is or one who goes out of his way to make time in his life to spend with her
Let's just say men like you are what most women hope they never waste their time with. Every man is different and sees women differently, speaking and stereotyping all of them like it's an absolute truth is quite pretentious.
As a female, you can believe it’s “guys like me” and guys “not like me” exist... You don’t have to like general truths about males and females but they exist because although we are all different in ways... our base processes, instincts, and standards are the same.
Women are emotionally driven is an example of this...
is it true in all cases, abso-fucken-lutly not... but is it true as a standard female trait.. you bet your fuckin ass it is.
Don’t hate the truth because you don’t like it. Accept that you can’t change it and deal with it.
Yes, but you might end up with your friend telling you that the guy you are dating sounds like a loser.
This is why my friends are all male. lol I dislike gossip.
Change *gossip to *relationship chatter (when the other person isn’t there to comment)
I have no idea how that helps give a perspective to my question?
Okay. lol
I said no but there is a caveat. Women get too detailed and long-winded about such things. If I get a simplified version then I don't mind. Very rarely do my male friends and I get into specifics about our love lives and I prefer it that way.
I have a female friend who asks me advice on her dating and sex life.
We often go into detail about our sexual experiences.
No. Ironically that's when I realized I wasn't her friend.
No, no guy wants to hear such things. It's not good form to tell your guy friends such things.
Why is that?
A question to ask yourself is, "Why would a guy want to hear about my love life?" Put the shoe on the other foot. Would you want to hear a guy that you like talk about other girls? Generally, there's some degree of sexual tension in most male-female friendships even if they're considered platonic.
It's not that you can't ask a male friend a specific question that you're genuinely curious about. Just don't go on and on about things. Would you want to hear a friend tell you about a shiny new gift that he/she recently got? Be cognizant of your friend's wishes and intentions, not just your own. Does this make sense?
Okey I see your point, fair enough. Yet, I can assure you that girls don't mind talking / hearing about their male friends' dates and trouble etc.. It's a different story when you are interested in your friend, in which case you should just be honest about your feelings.
My question is about genuine friendships, and there are many of those existing.
Also, women get friendzoned as well, so it's not always true that a male friend is automatically attracted to the woman.
Fair enough. Yes, women get friend-zoned. Still, there's generally at least some degree of sexual tension in male-female relationships. I may not admit this to female friends, but I will glance at women's breasts regardless of the type of relationship involved. This is not abated by my not wanting a romantic relationship with a woman. If a woman has breasts, I will glance down at them. The larger her breasts, the more frequently my eyes will stray. I'm not proud of this. I feel compelled to look and often feel quite powerless to avert my gaze. It's not like I stare or anything, and no one has ever spoken up about it or expressed uneasiness. I hope that no one catches me doing this.
Yes If he is not totally into you like a thought him being with you makes him vommit and very repulsive then only you can talk.
Just let me know when you're getting married, so I can arrange to be somewhere else on the day.
https://www.youtube.com/embed/tkmwVDLMZNkIf it's to bitch about the obvious consequences of their same mistakes?
No, unless you want to continually hear "hate to say I told you so".
I have three daughters and I have to listen to their desires and needs and lots about their man while growing up.
no..
despite the asinine and false votes by guys NO GUY wants to hear a woman talk about other guys especially when that guy has interest in her
and those guys who said yes ARE LYING
Guys don't give a shit about that. That's why women have other women to talk to about shit like that
it's like guys talking to a woman about other women's tit sizes and how big they are and who has the better set of tits or who has the better pussy to look at or who's ass is sexier on which woman
It's your opinion of course, and many guys would agree. Still, you can't speak for everyone because every guy is different, and they"re not threatened to vote on GAG
Exactly.
QA the guys voting yes to this question are not reading it in context. If we are not at all attracted to our lady friend than I would vote yes all day.
But more often than not this has to with friendzoned guys. The guy is hanging out with you because he likes you but doesn’t have the guts to be direct about. Or he was direct about it and you gave him a wishy washy response to keep in on the line (truth is you are not attracted to him but like his attention).
No guy wants to be in the latter scenario or worse have the girl antagonize him by bringing up other guys she likes. No woman would want to hear that either if the roles were reversed.
i’m not friends with girls they’re acquaintances at best
Interested to know why that is?
I’d rather spend what little free time i have hanging out with girls that i’m actually having sex with. I find that girls use guy friends for attention/validation and aren’t even good friends tbh
She can talk about it but I probably won’t care to listen.
That's not so friendly / honest. Why wouldn"t you care to listen if she"s a friend?
I don't know. Would you care about one of your guy friends sex life or how he has problems dating?
Of course, I'd love to give him a female perspective when he needs one, and help him see through / be educated on whatever situation involving dating a woman
Unfortunately, men usually lack knowledge about many girl related things, and choose instead to simply believe what they hear from other men or elsewhere, or believe an unrealistic stereorype about anything
It's also what women hope from their trusted male friends, because men know each other better
I've listened to female advice and it’s always gone terribly wrong. The only thing that has worked well is maybe clothing advice or something. But Id be down to listen to other things like hobbies, interests, movies, etc.
No, they just keep their mouths shut as I talk about crypto, for godsake!
If she's hooking me up with hot girls and I'm getting regularly serviced, she can talk about whatever she wants!
To whoever downvoted me, all I can say is that if she doesn't want you to get with hot girls, she's not really your friend.
I don't want to hear about anyone's love interests at all.
Yes, I find them very fun to listen to.
If we're friends, I have no problem with that
If they are close friends yes
Yes! Of course! I don't mind.
I am interested in it
And I’m not gay at all
Yes she can, I don't mind
Sure. They are our friends after all.
I had female friends that I could do this with,
It’s interesting to hear what they think
No. They get jealous
See, Phoebe gets it. It's not complicated.
no..
I mean I do.
Hell nah
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