From what I've seen in my life, it really doesn't work, the ones I've seen almost always occur from the guy asking her out but she liked someone else more so she said no.
He doesn't give up hope and keeps in contact with her in the hopes that she'll one day be with him (she won't) and the girl uses him for validation. This is very dysfunctional and a terrible situation for one to keep themselves in and to her, he'll always be the guy who wasn't good enough to be with her.
Most girls say yes when I ask if a guy and a girl can be just friends but then when I ask if he likes her, I have yet to receive a "no" answer. Again, supporting my point. Some like to make the case that relationships start out as friendships but then when I probe that comment, again my point is further illustrated when they answer "no" when I ask if they've ever dated a friend.
Furthermore, men and woman are polar opposites in terms of interests, politics, and hobbies that can't be merged together unless it was a love connection in which both parties share their lives together romantically. For that reason, I believe that a man and a woman cannot and should not try to be friends. Although I don't believe in having friends at all as I consider having connections to anyone other than my girlfriend a burden which will only drain me and take time away from me and her together. I also don't consider people trustable nowadays as guys are constantly trying to steal people's girlfriend's and cheat on their own girlfriends as well. So i aggressively avoid bonding with others, sometimes treating others with hostility as a deterrent.
Sometimes you meet someone, they seem interesting the first few times you drunkenly hang out, so you end up sleeping with them. It's pretty mediocre, so you think, hmmm, let me try it again and hopefully it'll get better. and one last time until it's blatantly clear that you don't (and never will) have chemistry in that way despite being able to relate on many platonic avenues.
So once its mutually clear sex will never be a deeply satisfying experience with each other, but you still think them pleasant to talk to and they care about your general wellbeing just a little bit more than a complete stranger, that is how a friendship can develop. If they are a true friend, you genuinely want them to be happy and get the best sex of their life with someone else and it's not weird. You also actual hangout and do real activities with mutual friends.
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Men can't have interests in common with women unless he's a weak and feminine man, which I am not
Girls are as rigid as can be in their hobbies, it's either doing makeup or dancing and that's it. Neither of which men take enjoyment in unless they're gay
Now this is a question separates the men from the boys and women from the girls.
Yes both genders can be friends. Just like any friendship they may vary from work friend, BFF, family friend etc. So not all males and females are going to be supper tight friends. It all just depends on the situation.
However if you only act like someone’s to have the end goal of sleeping with them or them committing to you… You are a scummy person.
be friends with someone because you want to be friends with them. If you wanna date someone make that clear. If you can handle being rejected but still being friends great. But if you don’t think you can or you realize you can’t you gotta back away.
I will agree with you, this question does clearly separate the boys and girls from the real men and women.
If you want more than friendship boys, grow a set of nads and act like a man. Make it clear and don't accept anything less... meaning if she says no walk a way and act like she's dead to you after that... do both your selves a favor and move on.
So the simple answer is yes absolutely its is possible to be just friends with a women... I say that because simple fact is that it does happen and people insist thats all honestly and truly only about friendship.
Other than just saying it possible and it happens... I otherwise totally agree with you on all your pionts. A guy that agrees to only be friends with a women is basically giving away his most valuable commodity for free... and the women suck it up. After you give it up for free you literally have nothing better to offer her.
Totally agree. ... Although, it WOULD be nice to have friends you can trust and whom your girlfiend and you can do activities together with, but other than that, woah, it's like you have the experience of someone in their 30's or older!
My own parents don't have true friends of the opposite sex! It's just murky (not to mention risky) territory! That's usually what builds up the suspiscions and if unlucky, then the divorce papers. Thank god my parents are the commited type and know their place and respect one another! That's whats missing these days in a successful marriage! RESPECT, LOVE and COMMITMENT! I wanna add MATURITY as well!
Yeah thanks... not really. You sound like a jerk... frist thing I did when I got married was cut all my "girlfriends" loose... lets be honest they weren't my real friends they were just chick's I was nice to, because I would of liked to fuck them if I had a chance... because I had some successes doing it that way. But my wife wasn't fooled, that was done as soon as I said I do.
I have male friends, but they are different from my girl friends. Sometimes I go on lunch dates with my girl friends, but I would not hang out alone with any of my male friends. Also all of my friends are also all of my husband's friends, so that helps.
See an honest women with prospective, and she is right. She has male "friends" but she would never hang out with them alone... why? That's right she has a husband, and if have a friend you would not hang with alone... well they aren't really a friend and you don't really have a friendship with them. They are just friendly acquaintances.
Of course. My best/childhood friend is a woman. I usually have more male than female friends but I've always had at least a few of each. They do break into male/female circles but we always do stuff as one big group too, and there's always one or another girl who joins the boys when we do split up, and vice versa. Normal friend/ friendgroup shit.
They absolutely can. You don't have to be in a relationship with every other member of the opposite sex... even if you find them attractive you might not be compatible in that way.
No people will be human. You cannot always know who can handle temptation the best and who can't! Don't dangle the carrot in front of the horse if you want to have any self respect.
Yeah, ask any of your guy friends if they'd like to fuck you if they could... at least half of them would probably say yes if they are being honest... the other half are either lying or don't really think your really thier friend to begin with, they probably think your more like friendly acquaintances.
@DaveJord I don't have any friends male or female. When I was younger, guys luckily didn't lead me on. They said they wanted to be friends but I never heard from them again 😞
And I was actually the one who agreed to be friends with a dude I was once attracted to and he agreed. Boy was THAT a stupid decision! Thank god I am no longer friends with the guy. He just basically wasted my precious time!
Yeah but it depends! I mean I have guy friends and there has never ever been anything there between us. Then again we’ve known each other since I was about 13 so… But then again even newer friends of mine there’s nothing but friendship and some guys literally just doesn’t want anything else other than being friends. Not everything is about sex.
I have guy friends that are just friends and I've never thought about dating them I may flirt by accident but we all are just friends if I went to a dance with one of them I'd know it was just because we are friends or if they danced with me
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They can be friends as long as there is no sexual attraction. There often is, and it's the guy who is attracted to the woman more often than not. That's why we usually see women saying they don't understand why men and women can't be friends. They don't understand it because they can't relate. It's gynocentrism at work.
This seperates the boys from the men and the girls from the women. YES it is completely possible. Usually the ones that are adamant against it have a rigid view set by societal standards or even experienced infidelity themselves. Big lesson is not every guy/girl will act inappropriately with their opposite sex friend. Try not to bleed on those that haven't cut you. Do the inner work so you're not upset by a "what if".
It is a more rare occurence but yes. I, personally, have a few girls that I'm purely just friends with. Those kinda friendships can really teach you a lot.
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Anonymous
(30-35)
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If you are a fuckboy you can’t be friends If you area goodbiy you can be friends If you are neither then leave it to luck a drunk night etc
Definitely not, I tried to be friend with girl but she sexed my dad and took my new Lamborghini. I will never forgive you Aldonna! I just want my damn car back
