Is his female friend jealous?

[Anonymous]

hi,
so i have been dating a guy for a few months now. it was my birthday recently and he gifted me several presents (romantic and practical), he really understood that my love language is gifts.
anyway while on the phone the other day, he told me that a girl friend of his, one that he has known for almost 5 years, made a comment when he told her about the gifts he was planning to give me.

she said: oh so you’re going all out for her? please look at how long you have known her in comparison too how long we have know each other and you have never gifted me anything for my birthday. how come?

when he told me this, i was honestly shocked. i feel like this very much implies that she is jealous of me? but he doesn’t agree, he thinks that she might have a point, considering how long they have know each other and he never bothered to gift her something on her birthday.
however, i feel like her comment is very shady and a red flag. i don’t understand how she managed to make it about her? why wouldn’t she grant me and him this way to connect? like be happy for us?
i’m annoyed that he doesn’t see what i’m seeing here and that he is trying to downplay what she said.
we just talked and i asked what he was doing today and he told me that he was going to meet this girl friend and several other friends for a drink. that’s when i told him to be careful around her in regards to what he tells about what is going on between us, because i don’t believe that she has our best interest in mind after that said statement of hers. but he still insists that she is not the jealous type and innocent.

so know i’m sitting her still thinking
am i tripping or?

ps.: and no i’m not jealous of their friendship, he has a few female friends that i don’t have a problem with. there’s one in particular that is very sweet towards me and even mentions how happy she is for him.

[UniquelyBasic]

Im too tired to read everything but just follow your heart 💜

[Asker]

🥲🥲🥲 please read the whole thing maybe later in the day

[UniquelyBasic]

For you, sure Ill read it later. 😴 Goodnight.

[Asker]

thank you! goodnight 🤝

[UniquelyBasic]

Its tough to tell if what she said was a joke as they have been "friends" for years and maybe they have that kind of relationship where they can be comfortable being a little bit passive aggressive. I think she has maybe a bit of jealousy about the situation because even if she was saying it in a joking way there is some truth in jokes. I dont think its to the point where you have to worry as they have been friends for years and Im guessing they never had anything passed just a friendship. The best thing would probably be to voice this concern and you shouldn't make your boyfriend choose as you might end up pushing him away, giving her what she may want and what you definitely dont. You just have to trust your boyfriend that he won't let her cause a rift between you two.

[Asker]

thank you so much on your input. and you’re so right. that’s really not what i want.
nevertheless i just finished arguing with him because of her. because he doesn’t see how the statement was disrespectful towards me. he said he is annoyed but said topic and doesn’t want to discuss it anymore. however, i brought it up again because i feel like he isn’t even trying to see if from my standpoint. and i don’t know.. i kind of expect my partner to defend me when i voice any concern of disrespect from someone no matter who it is. because thats what i would do. he doesn’t even have to be rude about it, a clear stated boundary would be enough. you know?

[UniquelyBasic]

Its something that his friend said and I dont think you should let something she said cause you two to argue. Its not like he had any control over what she said and its not really his fault. You brought it up to him and I dont think you should plant your flag and die on this hill. Its a small thing that isn't worth losing your boyfriend over.