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I had a huge crush on a guy for several years. I’ll refer to him as “A”. We used to flirt like crazy and I could tell he was into me. It was all in the intense eye contact and the body language. He also displayed jealousy if I was “flirting” with someone else.

A couple of years ago, I met another man to who I am now engaged. The first time “A” saw me with my partner, he completely ignored us and presumed he was just a friend. When he found out we were together, he constantly gave him dirty looks and was icily polite if he had to talk to him.

When A found out I was moving in with him and getting married to him, he became quiet and moody in his interaction with me. I saw him today and he barely said a word. I asked him if he was ok, and he said “yes, everything’s perfect”. He said it quietly gave me a fake smile.

Is he upset by the fact that I’m with someone else? Is he obsessed/in love with me?

28F, I haven’t dated someone in years & haven’t met someone from a dating app in over a yr. I’m at the point where I just don’t feel the desire to be active on them & use them kind of sporadically throughout the week. I’m really worried that years down the line I will regret being as isolated as I’ve been, considering I don’t have a social life. I don’t want kids & when it comes to friendships, I don’t put myself out there either. I just don’t have the energy to deal with people, most friends I’ve had throughout the years I’ve cut off. Im not one to settle with people’s bs for the sake of not being alone, I’m quick to cut people off when they do things that bother me after an extended amount of time. With dating, I haven’t had sex or masturbated in years. I find men attractive but sometimes I wonder if men like me. I’m told I’m cute/attractive & getting matches on the apps have never been the issue. It usually just doesn’t work out & it can go both ways, I never get approached by guys that’s always been my reality. People are a lot of work & relationships are too much work at times, I’m kind of apathetic but my anxiety takes over at times. Maybe the right person will change everything.