Does he still have feelings for me?

[Buggington93]

I had a huge crush on a guy for several years. I’ll refer to him as “A”. We used to flirt like crazy and I could tell he was into me. It was all in the intense eye contact and the body language. He also displayed jealousy if I was “flirting” with someone else.

A couple of years ago, I met another man to who I am now engaged. The first time “A” saw me with my partner, he completely ignored us and presumed he was just a friend. When he found out we were together, he constantly gave him dirty looks and was icily polite if he had to talk to him.

When A found out I was moving in with him and getting married to him, he became quiet and moody in his interaction with me. I saw him today and he barely said a word. I asked him if he was ok, and he said “yes, everything’s perfect”. He said it quietly gave me a fake smile.

Is he upset by the fact that I’m with someone else? Is he obsessed/in love with me?

Yes

No

[burlen]

Based on the information provided, it is possible that "A" still has feelings for you. The fact that he used to flirt with you and was jealous when you were talking to other people suggests that he was interested in you romantically. The way he acted when he found out about your engagement and impending marriage also suggests that he may be upset by the fact that you are with someone else.

However, keep in mind that there could be other reasons for his behavior. He may be dealing with personal issues that have nothing to do with you, or he may simply be feeling down for other reasons. It's also possible that he's trying to move on and doesn't want to get too close to you, since he knows you're in a committed relationship.

Ultimately, the only way to know for sure how he feels is to have an open and honest conversation with him. You could try asking him how he's feeling and if there's anything on his mind that he wants to talk about. This may help to clarify his feelings and help you better understand where he's coming from.