Dating

How do you go about getting your first relationship?

Anonymous
I was a late bloomer, and never developed any of the skills to acquire a date when it was more acceptable to still be doing so. By the time I came around up making an effort, I couldn't do anything right. I went through college without the slightest taste of dating. As I couldn't ever do what was needed to attract a woman, I had no idea that there was such a thing. Now that I've graduated college, got my job, got my fitness/health in order, a couple social circles, and new hobbies with a now-acquired disposable income I've managed to at least get a date every 2-4 months through online. However despite how well the date goes, I'm always given the line of "I like you in a friendly way".

What do I need to do to actually attract someone? Can't I just be a person? Do I have to use all those methods like being a challenge, being a mystery, push/pull etc? How does a normal person get so many second dates?
Secondly, how can I get a date NOT from online. It seems that all the women on the are talking with 10 guys all at once and just go through the motions.

I've worked on my confidence and social skills, I can walk into a new group just fine. I even moved across the country on my own and started up my social circles from scratch. On some rare occasions I get to speak at conferences/mentor groups. What can I be doing wrong?
How do you go about getting your first relationship?
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