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I’ve been with my girlfriend Becky for a long time. I think I love her and I really enjoy spending time with her. However, she’s recently shared her ugly past with me. When she was in her younger years she had a rep of sleeping around.

She apparently was the school slut who got tagged teamed by the jocks. Becky even told me about how when she was 15 and had fuck buddies in their 30’s. And how when she was in university she dated 3 guys at once and caught chlamydia and gonorrhoea twice. Even used Only Fans to pay for school.

Even worse, she supposedly slept with other men when she was married. Her excuse was that her and her husband broke up and stayed married so he wouldn’t get deported.

After knowing all this I’m starting to look at her differently. Sometimes I see Becky the same way I see the woman in the picture. But it’s hard to leave Becky because she is trying really hard to make this relationship work. I’m a low value man with no proper education and job, and she makes feel like a high value man with the way she treats me. She really wants us to get married and keeps telling her friends Im gonna but her a ring. But it’s a tough decision for me.

She wants to meet my parents and I know they’re not gonna like her at all. My parents are and have always people skills. They can pick up on things.

The other day beck told me she’s having suicidal thoughts and being with helps her not think suicidal. She’s undergoing therapy atm.

very common take I see at least on my social media algorithms. it's been my experience with my boomer parents (yeah they're old, they were literally grandparents by the time I was born). they were well off. left my two brothers and sister destitute and broke. didn't even get them a car to get to work in at 16-17 but forced them to get a job. almost like they were living in the 50s where making ice cream cones all day could pay enough to afford a new car. the funny part? when my brother ODd and my other brother was locked up in prison for selling drugs and my sister almost died from an obesity related stroke, they said it wasn't their responsibility. who said it was? a guilty conscience?

A discussion recently occurred on r/Asianmasculinity, where an Asian male was talking about the complete double standards that Asian women have for Asian men and white men.

A snippet from OP discussion called "Different Dating Requirements for Asian vs. White Men"

"I’ve noticed that Asian women (ex. my female friends) hold Asian men to much higher standards—expecting them to have a car, a house, or a high income—while not requiring the same from white men. In addition, these women expect Asian men to pay for dates and experiences, but are fine to split with white men."

Many users were in the comment in agreement and even cited a Yale study that supported it

Yale sociologist Grace Kao: “In fact, we find that despite the higher education and income of Asian American men, there is evidence that they are systematically excluded from having romantic relationships during adolescence and young adulthood”

Some even explained why so many non-white women see white men as gods and chase after them in the west.

"Social status: white men in white circles gain immediate acceptance due to familiarity bias.

Pretty privilege: White men in Asian circles gain immediate acceptance due to pretty privilege (it is internalized that euro features are more handsome)

So in the eyes of a white worshipper, the white man already brings those values to the table by virtue of being white."

". Being with a white partner gives prestige that being with an Asian cannot. So Asian guys are required to compensate with material success.

Just stay away from these types of women and find someone who’s actually ride or die. I’m not saying don’t strive for success of course. But give it to someone who isn’t fucked in the head by internalized racism."