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"Testing" your partner means that you aren't confident about their intentions and you deliberately stage a situation where they have the opportunity to reveal their true character. For instance, a girl is engaged but wants to know that her fiance won't cheat. So she gets the help of her younger sister. Future sister-in-law calls the guy and asks if he can come over to fix a leaky faucet. When he arrives, she is home alone, and wearing seductive lingerie. She tries to seduce him but he walks out of her house without touching her. When he exits the house, his fiance is waiting outside to congratulate him on passing the test.

If someone tests you even once, it strongly suggests that they don't trust you. And you might get tested again. Who wants to live knowing that everything that happens to you just might be a deliberately staged test? I think testing a partner - if they learn about the test - raises the possibility of a break up to a near certainty.

Have you ever tested a partner? How did that work? Have you ever been tested? How did you feel when yo learned that you had been tested?