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I dislike that my boyfriend appears to ONLY value men’s opinions. Anything I or any other woman says to him goes in one ear and out the other. But let a guy say the same thing and he's all ears and ready to take the advice.

Anyways, it made me question whose opinions I tend to value? I am very stubborn and not many people can get through to me. I can only think of one girl who has just really gotten through to me but I guess I notice that it’s mostly been guys, thus I value men’s opinions more.

I don't know if my guy simply values the male view more because he’s so insecure and intimidated by other men, which he says all the time. But I value the guys perspective because I want to know how to captivate, communicate with, and better understand the gender that I’m attracted to.

Some may call that a “pick me” but I don’t consider it the same thing. I feel pick me’s seek validation while I more so want advice and guidance. Who better to understand a guy I’m into than a guy himself?

If I wanted advice on how to improve my appearance, dress style or to better control my emotions, then I’d seek a woman’s advice since we better understand one another’s insecurities and reactions. I rarely ask other women for advice on guys though because so many take it as competition to go after that same guy. Its so weird. Girlcode always seems to go out the window.

Another thing could be that I grew up looking up to my grandpa more than anyone else. I also got along best with my male cousin and my uncle. My friends have always been 90% guys. Like, my mom held it down for a bit but her inconsistent behavior and broken promises really got to me. So I stopped looking up to her. Maybe she, my grandma and a bunch of flaky female friends and cousins ruined it for other women too.

Some men have wronged me but never as many men as women. I guess same can be said for my boyfriend since he feels more women have wronged him yet all I ever see these days is men treating him badly. #FeelFreeToList

Can someone please give me advice. I matched with a guy on a dating app and we are in two different countries. We have stated that we are exclusively getting to know each other and to let the other person knows if that changes. I made us take the attachment test and we found out that he’s secure and I’m anxious. Because of the time differences we aren’t able to speak for that long however during the day we don’t have that much communication (which is bothering me). They message me in the morning and I message them back and I don’t hear from them until 11pm their time, which is when they are about to go to sleep. I’ve mentioned that I don’t like their communication style and they say they’ll work on it but it’s gotten worse tbh. I know they are busy and have a lot on their plate, so I’m trying to be understanding but it’s getting to me. I like is it a me issue or we just aren’t compatible. How am i suppose to get to know someone if we aren’t in communication… I don't know or am I being childish? I’ve always been huge on communication but I’m like is it bc I truly care about it or is it my attachment style playing a part in it. Also, we’ve only known each other for 3 months so it’s fairly new. Am I putting too much expectation on it? I don’t want to keep bringing it up because I have like 4 times. Should I end it because of communication issue. I do like him, his morals etc, there are something I don’t agree with him (which I think is normal bc it’s not everything you’ll agree with someone on) & I’d like to continue knowing him but I don’t know if I should. Someone please advise & thank you.