Girls, would you consider this an insult from a guy?

[Anonymous]

Let me break this down. You start following a random guy on Instagram you don't know, you give him your number, you call him, you text him a lot, you meet up and he's a well-spoken, well-dressed, sophisticated guy. After 9 or 10 months he asks, "hey where is this going, we've been talking for almost a year and I don't want to be wasting my time, I don't want to get hurt because i've been hurt in the past by immature girls and I don't want that to be the same case for this situation". No swearing, no curse words, no insulting friends/family or your life style choices. Be honest, would you deem that as an insult to cut off all contact with a guy.

[noemiii]

It’s insulting to the woman because the man, who usually is and should be the initiator for a relationship, is asking “where is this going” when he should have already asked the woman out if it was serious. It’s an insult to her and an insult to him.

[Asker]

No, but what if he already took her out and she said she had a nice night out and admitted he feelings to her a wk after the date but she used the whole “you weren’t calm” when all he asked is to where is this going after 10 months of talking? That’s my point. I know since you’re a girl you probably assume, the guy is lazy and not picking up clues and he’s acting all crazy and mad. Nah that’s not the case. Feelings take time to develop right? I’ve also realized some girls just like attention.

[noemiii]

Then it sounds like you’re wasting your time. Take confusion as a sign of disinterest. Women most definitely do not bring confusion to a man they want to be with.

[laly520]

why did he take 10 months to open his mouth n say that?

I wonder

[Asker]

Because girls freak out if you tell them to quickly and then there are girls who go through their roller coaster of emotions and it’s hard to talk to them.

[laly520]

thats not an excuse
he has to be honest n tell em in beginning

[Asker]

You can’t tell someone in the beginning you like them when you met them on social media that makes no sense. You need to talk to person on the phone and meet up and see how they are and than say something.

[laly520]

thats not my point
10 months r too much n long period to decide
he is capable to decide before that