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Alright so I have a date in a few days with someone I matched with on a dating app and she hasn’t been the most talkative person BUT when I asked if she wanted to go out so we can talk in person she seemed to like that better. Anyway-

I’m 23 she’s 22
I have a few questions. Is mini golf too cliche? There’s not too much to do in our area and there’s only so much interactive date options ya know? I figure it’s a classic and it’s less pressure on us both than like going out to dinner. Holding hands is fine right? The only thing I’m really worried about is if I should kiss her at the end of the night when I take her home like- I suck at reading people in general! What if any signals should I look out for? Should be a quick peck right? But not too quick?- I need help😭😂 please and thank you

I know so many Indian guys that are like 29, 31, 32 and their parents are worried that they haven’t found him a girl. Even though they look well and have a good career.

Me personally I’m nice, tall, fit and handsome guy, yet I feel………. different. I see white guys that look worse than me, shit career and aren’t as blessed as me with stunning girlfriends.

Indian guys online have a reputation for being creepy. What do you expect when they don’t get any girls?

No I’m not a sociopath. In fact I am sometimes too empathetic for people.

Anyway I have known a few in my life (even regrettably dated one in the past). I can’t change their nature but just accept the sad fact they can never be trusted. Sociopaths will only value people to the point they get value out of them. This can be sneaky because their “value” can mean different things. It can be looks, money, sex , social optics, etc. Even the ones who are heavily involved in “social justice” initiatives just want the social kudos that come along with it vs. really caring about the people they are supposedly fighting for. Sociopaths see life as a chessboard.

They get paranoid about being “found out” because when they know when that happens people don’t trust them. They need to be trusted to gain their own ends. So they are good at acting and behaving seemingly genuine. But when no one’s looking they will be the last to inconvenience themselves to help someone else who can’t repay them. That’s the acid test of identifying a sociopath; how do they treat people who can’t benefit them.

With all that said a part of me can’t help a bit envy for these people at times. They seem to always get what they want. Sociopathic men usually do (at least initially) very well romantically with women compared to more empathetic men.

It’s because they come off as confident and non chalant because they aren’t worried about hurting a woman’s feelings. They understand the concept of challenge and good at being manipulative. But they put on acts like they care to convince them otherwise. And of course they become the nasty heart break stories women complain about. Then some of these hurt women generalize ALL men for these asshole’s bs.

But on the flip side it must be a heavy burden knowing that you can never really be trusted and must always cover your ass.