I think everyone knows someone that always has to turn everything into a competition, be it in academics, arts, sports or romantic relationships. There is a woman at my work place that I talked to briefly once about a year ago that seems to have some kind of problem with me. I saw her sneering at me several times for no obvious reason, she would stare me down when I walk past or she would turn around and look over her shoulder at me when she walked past me to give me a gloating smile, she would start dressing more feminine, ignore my work related messages on teams and not pick up calls (in front of my supervisor haha). I might be misinterpreting her facial expressions but the one time I talked to her in person I felt like she looked a bit worried and she kept glancing at my lips for some reason. After that first talk whenever she would run into me she would ignore me or acknowledge me with a „yeah right“ as if I had done something to upset her. With everyone else she is super charming and flirtatious but with me she rubs into my face that she has some kind of problem with me. Why does she act like this? Is she insecure or is she a snob? She is good looking, 38 years old, married mother of 2 children and would die for male attention.
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Do women compete with other women out of insecurity or (the opposite) because of a perceived superiority?
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Because in her head, she perceives you as a direct threat to her. These types of rivalries are ALWAYS centered in male validation. The “would die for male attention” gives you all you need to know. It is also ALWAYS based on insecurity and for most women, it’s deep rooted. If a woman comes around and is receiving the same male attention as the woman, she will perceive her as a threat. There is no real competition, and men will gladly fuck both women, but in her head, she needs the upper hand to the other woman.
Women like this are made because they aren’t taught the psychology of a man. They assume if they have the upper hand over a woman a man will desire them more, but in reality, men who move in lust will always crave multiple women. Women like this are also often taught this by their mothers.
I’d just ignore her, or if need be, assert yourself over her. I had the same thing happen to me at the gym. A fairly attractive women was giving me dirty looks, intentionally standing in front of the mirror where I was looking and looking at me to get a reaction while she was with her boyfriend. She wanted me to feel inadequate in some way because she was intimidated and thought it was a competition, well she met her match that day as I do not care about male validation, I got my ass up from the machine and set myself up right next to her and her boyfriend. Needless to say she backed down and never did that shit again. The biggest weapon to a competitive woman is a confident woman always. People don’t compete with things they think they’re better than.
they dont really compete
they rather hate on each other out of being insecure
I feel like she thinks she is better than me though
insecurity
Why would a woman that looks better than me and gets more attention be insecure?
she thinks the "competition " will get more looks and attention