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He's been in and out my life for 12 years, we were never dating more casual. Then he dumped me, his words were we are done over text. Then the texting started to bait me to respond like want sex and even asked me to have a 3 some when I told him to eff off hed give me abuse and get others to give abuse, so I changed number. Then it was dating sites I used, he'd let me know I knew it was him,, things like *mine* you'll never get better than me *I'll have you anytime anyplace anywhere* in different aliases, Over 2 years hindering me from moving on, then it was kik, I'd delete his chats and ended up deactivating it. Peace until 2 years ago an email I junked that straight away.. Few weeks ago strange email address I didn't recognise so responded. We did chat and met up for sex then he went hot and cold on me. Then arranged meet up again where I stupidly gave him my address, he said he was coming straight after work didn't show, so I sent 3 messages asking where he was, no answer and an email telling him never to contact me again. Then next morning a barrage of abuse, how I was a rat, he didn't trust me, I had mental health issues and he said that he was putting an end to this pronto.. Please tell me he means it? I'm absolutely scared now because he knows I'm capable of cutting him off and now he knows where I live.

I like my boss. He is such a sweetheart! He makes eye contact when we talk, laughs/jokes with me, tries to invite me to work outings (which I usually avoid unless they're mandatory), etc. I know he's my boss, but he makes it a point to let me know he'll accept a call for help at any time of the day and wants me to call him when I'm feeling down... I joked about the latter when he first suggested it and accidentally chuckled in a sultry way, which he seemed to do in return? I felt there was some "tension" between us at that time... but that could have been my own "tension" talking.

I love that he's respectful to women regardless of looks, and I also realize that he might not be into me and is just being kind. DGMW, I'm not ugly... but I'm very aware that I'm not everyone's cup of tea... I've been reminded of that multiple times since I was young. Penelope/Colin relationships, especially ones where Pen looks more like Kate or Lady Danbury than Daphne or Queen Charlotte, are uncommon. I've also noticed my coworkers (mostly the women) acting funny towards me ever since this one time he told me he liked my hair. I can't tell when I'm liked because it's so few and far between, so I don't know if they're seeing something I'm not or just being weird... don't men compliment hair?

I made the mistake of dating a coworker while we worked together years ago; I wouldn't dare pursue a relationship with a coworker now. I've also been rejected by every guy I've ever confessed to, so I'm hesitant to put myself out there. I want him to make the first move, but I'm also worried, if he feels the same way, that he's too scared to say anything to me... so I want to try to "guide" him to me. I told him a few months back that I wanted him to "not be a stranger" with me after I quit, and he's said I should let him know when I'm quitting. "Tension" made me feel he was saying it in that sort of way, and I'm thinking of revisiting that convo when I tell him I'm quitting.

I know some people have the end goal of marriage when it comes to dating. Me personally, I date because I want to build a closer more intimate and romantic relationship with the person I’m interested in. I don’t really care if we get married or not, I’m just going with the flow, if he ends up being “the one” then I’d consider marriage but other than that I usually just want to be with them for the sake of being with them. I don’t feel like I’m wasting my time either bcs the time was well spent getting to know that person, whether it ends in marriage or not. What about you? Do you date to marry or do you date just to date them?