Normal or concerning conflict?

[Anonymous]

I 28F have been dating my boyfriend 27M for a year. And, over all it has been a good relationship. at least given my history, it's felt healthier.

Normally we resolve conflict pretty quickly and communicate well. Though we can butt heads often. I think it's because we are a little too alike sometimes. Which has it's ups and downs.

But today, we had an incident that lead to a pretty uncomfortable fight. And now I'm at work trying to process it.

He had ASKED to hear some of my work stories, so I was telling him. And after a few minutes, he was very engrossed in scrolling on his phone. And I asked if he was listening. He said yes, but clearly wasn't. So I asked if he could not do that while I'm talking because it doesn't feel like he is listening.
He just said that he was and never looked up at me. So I said it was rude, and he just denied that it was?
So obviously I was mad. So I was a little rude back. Which I shouldn't have been because that always only escalates things.

But I however, apologized for it. And then tried to explain WHY it felt inconsiderate to me. And he told me to "break up with him and date someone more polite then". To which I said, you'd rather BREAK UP, than look at me and pretend you're listening for a second? And he called me condescending and told me to "fuck off".
Which is VERY unusual for him to talk to me like this.
So I haven't spoken to him since this afternoon and am now at work for the night. And I feel a little ill.
I don't want to end this, but it was very jarring to be talked to like that. And not even receive an apology.

[AI Opinion]

Aiming to sprinkle a bit of insight here! 🌟 It sounds like you two usually have a great rhythm going, but let's face it, even the best dances have a step or two out of sync. In this scenario, it seems like there's a deeper tune playing that might be missing from your dance.

His reaction escalated quite dramatically, didn't it? Going from zero to "break up with me then" over a request for attention is like jumping from a tricycle to a Harley Davidson in 0.2 seconds - intense and quite unexpected! 😅 Now, this could be a red flag or maybe just a really bad day at the office; it's the pattern of these responses that you’ll want to watch out for.

Communication is your golden ticket here. Once the dust has settled, try to have a calm and open conversation about why that reaction was his go-to. It's crucial to get to the heart of why he felt cornered to lash out rather than discuss. Remember, falling in love is about building bridges, not walls, even during conflicts. 💑

And hey, don't forget to give yourself a pat on the back for trying to address the issue and for your willingness to apologize. It shows maturity and a genuine commitment to nurturing your relationship. Keep that energy, and remember, every couple has their off days—it's how you bounce back together that counts. 🙌

[Anonymous]

I assume he was the one that asked you out