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So we all know that minorities in Western culture, a lot of them have internalized hatred for their own race. Many minorities also have an inferiority complex to white people and believe by having a white partner and possibly children with them, they would be closer to the white community.

Indian girl celebrating because her kid turned out white

It comes as no surprise that part of the reason for this, is the media's influences on our dating choice. It's only logical that if we see a common group of people in magazines, films, adult movies etc as being the attractive ones that we will natural grow a preference for them. In addition, skin colour often affects the way in which people treat us on a daily basis.

For example,

"I think you nicely summarized all the moving forces quite nicely, thanks! I'd just add that it's soooo true how "whiteness" is perceived in at least India, where my dad (who's white, I'm mixed Indian) is very weirdly revered by strangers just due to his skin colour even though he's a bumbling idiot."

"Yeesssss, my friend is mixed white and Indian but she looks full white so is treated well but when she goes out with her brother (full biological brother) who looks brown, he is treated differently and badly. They have known this their entire lives"

With that said, a lot of women get warped by the media portrayal of white men and end up exclusively dating whites during their prime. A lot of the time these, girls look down on men of their own race and refuse to date them. For the women that were unsuccessful in landing a LTR with white guy, they often go back to men of their race and exclusively choose to date them. Often these women have PTSD and no longer wish to date white guys.

Asian girl who exclusively dated white men In her prime. Now has PTSD and only dates Asian.

QUESTION: Now, if you were a member of said girl's race, would you actual consider dating her now?

There are a few times out of curiosity I’ve approached heavier girls and even though they were traditionally not very pretty there was something intangible about them I found attractive.

Surprisingly these girls were actually extremely bitchy when I gave them keen but innocent attention. The attention wasn’t sexual but of intense curiosity that might become sexual.

Anyway they got bizarre deluded sense of pride that they just had to play “hard to get”. Yet I would have no problem walking the second I felt a shit test happening. Admittedly attractive women are much more likely to get away with playing games with me (but I know where to draw the line). But it’s like a unattractive woman thinks that acting bitchy somehow puts her on par with the very pretty girls she is so jealous of.

I remember years ago I went to get a few drinks with a girl I didn’t find attractive at all. I’m not sure how it started by she ended up going mega bitch and saying something really nasty.

Then next day she messaged me and apologize profusely. She begged me for a second chance. I told her I felt better she apologized but I wasn’t interested in hanging out again. She sadly wished me best of luck and I did likewise.

But anyway why do these unattractive often self sabotage the few rare opportunities they do have to date a decent looking guy who gave them attention? Does the feeling of deluded pride of being “able to turn someone down because I think I am hot and have options” more satisfying then actually having a real tangible rare opportunity with someone?

I know no fat guy would turn down a woman who is a 7 or above. But why would a BBW woman turn down the same vice versa?