GUYS: Guy I’ve been talking to starting seeing someone else do I have a chance? Will he come back? What should I do next?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been talking to a guy for 6 months. He lives in another state but his family is here and he comes back frequently to visit. We met in person once for lunch and have stayed in touch. Communication has been flirty and romantic and we talk almost daily, he sends me photos of him and replies to my stories and photos. A month ago he told me he’s planning to move to my city permanently when his lease ends in a couple months and he wants to see me more. I took this as a good sign that he was letting me know he’s moving and that he wants to see me in person. I was on vacation last week and he was commenting gorgeous on my photos and asking how my trip was. Then a few days ago he posts photos on his stories of him with a girl and I was caught so off guard. Clearly it was a date and he had his arm around her. I got so sad I sent him an emotional text saying that I must have misinterpreted the past few months and that I thought he liked me especially telling me he was moving and wanted to see me more. I also said I liked him and seeing that photo hurt my feelings because I was caught so off guard and didn’t expect it at all. I told him he didn’t need to respond and that I was going to leave him alone and wished him well. I guess I was hoping he’d realize how much I liked him and respond. He read the message 2 hours later, no response and it’s been 4 days. I stopped looking at his stories so I didn’t see more photos of them but he still looks at mine and he even has hearted a few. One was a gym selfie of me in leggings and a sports bra (why would he like this if dating someone?) I’m so confused what this means. We’ve been talking almost daily for months, he was moving near me, now I don’t even get a response to my message? Why would he heart my stories without acknowledging the message? If he didn’t like me then wouldn’t he just not like them? Why would he call me gorgeous if he was talking to someone else? Will he come back? Should I text him? I don’t know what to do.

[Guy13]

Guys do not like the feeling of emotional bombardment and long texts usually do this. He was playing you and you caught him. This is good even though it hurts. What would you do if he got here and this girl showed up one weekend. This was going to happen sometime. Sorry.

[Asker]

How would you interpret him still watching and liking my stories even if he didn’t reply to my message? If he wanted to go no contact and never talk to me again wouldn’t he not even like my stories? Is this his way of saying he still likes me? I’m so confused he must know I’d be reading into that. It’s also terrible to make me read into that after I messaged him I must’ve misread his intentions these past few months.

[Guy13]

The fact that he even can watch your stories is a surprise to him. He thinks you are weak and an easy target. You caught him but yet he still has access. I am sure he thinks he can manage you here and her, there...

[Iron_Man]

You better straighten it out with him immediately

[Asker]

How should I do that? I sent him that message and he looked at it but didn’t respond. I thought that meant he didn’t like me then he started liking my Instagram stories. I think he’s still seeing her but I don't know what to say or how to say it. Do you think he still likes me and maybe this is just casual with her?

[Iron_Man]

Well he better respond if not why would he bother coming to your town to live

[Iron_Man]

Why would he send you a picture of that is he trying to make you jealous

[Asker]

He didn’t send it to me he posted it public ally on his Instagram story. He was coming to live here because it’s his hometown so not specifically for me but just worked out we’d be in the same city together finally. I’m afraid he’s not going to move if he met someone there and am hopeful maybe he’s just casually seeing her while he’s still there but I don’t even know what’s going on. I did technically say he didn’t need to respond to my message (mainly because I was embarrassed sending it) but I thought he’d still reply if he liked me. Could it be he’s still processing what I said and is thinking how to respond or has it been too long?

[Iron_Man]

I see you still gotta confront him on the situation who’s the girl

[leighbee]

Get rid of him, though I am not the best rn to be giving advice 😂

[Anonymous]

Let him go. If he was worth it, he would be with you already.

[Asker]

I feel like I need some sort of closure we’ve been talking so long and he was going to move here. Should I text him again? I can’t tell if he’s serious about her or not just because they’re in the same city now and I live here (but he was planning to move I don’t even know if he still is anymore).

[Asker]

Like it hurts more that he didn’t even give me any sort of explanation even if it was polite and just something to let me down. Just no response but still likes my stories even while he’s seeing her.