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It’s true that men are more likely to turn to unhealthy, self destructive and even violent means to deal with repressed emotions. More alcoholism, drugs, crime, fighting, risky activities, etc. Shorter lifespans too

Now if we have productive means to deal with our emotions e. g. sports, meaningful work, exercise, projects, inventions, hobbies, etc that can be a good thing. But even that can only go so far in my opinion.

My approach is that men should absolutely seek help but do it PRIVATELY. Join prívate mens groups, get counseling, attend private support groups, etc. But don’t go around telling people about it unless it’s someone you can 100% trust (best friend or a family member). Don’t go into details about it with the woman you are dating either.

We have to put on a different face in public and especially around women.

Personally I am so f*cking fed up with women who keep encouraging men to “open up” about their feelings and emotions. It’s has to be the most insidious shit test of them all. Once a man does this she feels relief that he is more “relatable” since he is acting more like a woman. But at the same time she loses attraction and RESPECT if he acts this way.

Most women have no idea how important it is that they want women to RESPECT them as real men. That is subconsciously the biggest Freudian motivation for men to act the way they do (for better or worse). Yet women want to destroy that for the short term “relief” they get for seeing a man get emotional.

A few days ago I was talking on the phone with a close friend of mine from the last place I lived. I was telling him about this new girl I’m seeing and he asked, “Is she the only one?” I asked him what he meant by that.

He said that he was only telling me this because he “cared about me”. He said that not too long after I moved away, 1 girl I used to have feelings for had a gathering with him & several people to talk shit about me. They said I was too thirsty, the girls didn’t know which one of them I really wanted, & I didn’t make any of them feel special.

I lived in this city for 4 years & tried to get to know 5 different girls over time, not all at once. The girl who hosted this talk is the 1st I liked. She rejected me, I moved on.

The 2nd girl approached me first and made the first move. I talked to her 2 months after the 1st turned me down. The 2nd girl curved me & the 3rd girl approached me 3 months later. I talked to her until she popped up with a new boyfriend so I left that alone. 3 months after that, the 4th girl sat on my lap at a dinner party and we talked for 4 months before I even asked her out and when I did, she got upset because it wasn’t a group date then ghosted me. A year & a 1/2 went by until the 5th girl snatched my phone to take a picture with me and we talked until she was no longer interested.

While I was talking to each of these girls, I wasn’t talking to anyone else. My only focus was the current girl at the time. None of these girls are even close friends besides the 3rd and 4th girl.

Their ultimate conclusion was that they didn’t want to have the reputation of being “the 1st to give me some” or “the one I finally got”. My friend agreed with them, but he wasn’t acting like this when I was living there. He seems fake to me. Part of me is glad he told me, then the other part of me wants to cut him off for co-signing their bullshit. Is he real for telling me or did he stab me in the back?