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See here's the deal when you seek serious committed relationships, you have to comit not only to yourself, but to the other person. That means you have to be willing to accept change in your life, because that is what relationships do... they bring change.

Are you willing to accommodate for change, or do you really just want some one to just show up in your life and fall into place with out missing a step? Because that rarely happens.

The 5 Stages of a Relationship.

1.) The Romance Stage. This is when you have these feelings for the other person and believe they will last for ever.

2.) The Cooling Off Stage. This when you start to come back to earth and consider if there are things that you may of over looked.

3.) Reality Hits Stage. This is when you open your eyes for the first time and are confronted with reality. That if you want to be with this person, what changes are required to be made and are you willing to make them?

4.) Denial Stage. You either start to deny that change is upon you and you refuse to do it. You could refuse to accept that this person is who you thought they would or could be. Their flaws suddenly seem so apparent even when they have been there all a long.

5.) Acceptance Stage. You accept change and fully comit or accept the inevitably of the situation, cut and run.

Now they. say not every relationship goes through all 5 stages, some skip stages and they don't always happen in the same order. Some go through additional stages, but in general no matter what you call them these 5 usually slide into the mix in most case in some way.

I know some of you are going to go off about never using dating apps or trying to find people online period. That’s a separate debate so please don’t bring it up. Not everybody has the time or environment to socialize with singles on a consistent basis.

Anyway I’ve gone real back and forth about ever mentioning sex or even acting flirty with girls I match on dating apps. On one end if she already finds me attractive, is in a good mood and hit her vibe right it can make her more eager to meet up.

However the downside if I just make one wrong comment many women panic and hit the “creep” button. It’s game over and there is little or no room for forgiveness. Often the guy has no idea he’s out. It doesn’t matter if it was an honest mistake or I had no idea she didn’t like a certain comment. Many women just freak.

An even worse scenario is she might just want all virtual sexting and has zero interest in meeting for real. The virtual attention is good enough for her. Most men aren’t satisfied with that. They want to meet someone for real.

Then there is the safe route (and it can be genuine). Just act friendly, funny and don’t mention sex. Many women find this to be non-threatening and are more likely to meet in person.

But a downside with this is she might find me more boring. Some women are deluded/selfish to believe that guys are okay just making “friends” with women on dating apps. Nope. That’s a huge waste of time and effort. That doesn’t mean men are always looking for hook ups. Some of us really want to start a relationship. But there is always at least some romantic interest. Men don’t seek out random women to become “friends” with.

So anyway what’s the best route?