Can you make sense of why I seem to find more success with “fuckboys” wanting committed relationships with me than “nice guys”?

[Anonymous]

i suppose on some level it doesn’t matter, since if a guy is wanting to be in a relationship, it shouldn’t really matter if historically they have been fuckboy types vs the kind of guy one would assume is better “relationship” material.

but i’ve noticed a distinct pattern wherein so-called nice guys will date me for months, maybe even a year and then suddenly decide i’m just not the “right” girl for him. and yet guys who are “fuckboys” from the start end up sustaining an interest that is actually enduring and wanting the things of me that guys looking for commitment at the start seem to experience a disconnect with when dating me.

probably a lot of relevant factors i can all list here. but just wondering what y’all might think are some possible reasons for this reoccurring trend.

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specifically i’m thinking about relationships with guys who were “fuckboys” when i met them that lasted for : 13 years (on and off…), 7 years, 1.5yrs, 4 years, and 2 months (current). in all of these relationships when it ended the guy still wanted back in relationship for a long time.

“nice”guys: 7 mo, 2 yes & bunch that lasted for < 3 mo , and ended b/c the guys end it. (on friendly terms), generally say they found me to be “robotic”, emotionally distant & always expecting more, more more

[Anonymous]

It means you've got a hot bod, for now, congratulations. It also means that there is something you need to work on about yourself that those who ARE relationship material don't see as relationship material.

So... Work on you, improve yourself, we all can. Me, I'm starting to train for a half marathon starting yesterday (it was embarrassing)... You could do that, or learn a new language, take some sort of technical course, learn some simple things like how to change a tire, or get First Aid certified, or who knows, anything like that... We are a combination of all of the little things, so focus on you instead of them, improve you, and he will show up along the way, and the overall you will impress him.

[Guy13]

Probably because your body language is more open and your attention more apparent with the boys than with the nice guys….

[boggboss]

How many people are u actually talking about because its rare people will date for a year plus to just end it

[pizzalovershouse]

Depends on the body language you give out if it seems your not interested the guy that's nice won't ask you out

[Anonymous]

If you don't know why it's going to be a waste of time to tell you why.