How important are looks in dating and marriage relationships.

[KelleyNice]

Obviously, looks matter. Otherwise, models and movie stars wouldn’t be exceptionally attractive. By early teens most learn the level of looks they can attract. 3s know they cannot attract 5s but they might attract a 4. 6s know they cannot attract 8s but they might attract a 7.

If you rate looks on a scale of 10 based on the standard deviation as show on the bell curve rather than percentages, half the population would be between 4 and 6. The top 10% are 8s or above and 9s are the top 1%. Most college pompom girls are at least 8s and they are pretty enough for anyone, including 10s. Therefore, if you are an 8 additional looks are of little benefit as other characterizes matter more. However, if you are 6 or lower, additional looks matter a great deal. Therefore, additional looks matter less to very attractive people than for people with average below looks.

That said, based on what their experience tell them the level of looks someone has that will find them acceptable, most people have a minimum level of looks they will accept. Once someone passes their looks test, especially if they are a 6 or above, other factors have a higher value then additional looks.

[DWornock]

Looks are extremely important. Look are coorrLooks are extremely important. Studies have proven that prettier people are more intelligent. Looks are highly correlated with good health and fertility in young women. Looks are in indicator of personality. Obviously, good looking people are sexier and more desirable.

[shaysh87]

looks are not an indicator of personality. it just sounds like you're just a very shallow person babbling.

[RiseofArtemis]

@shaysh87 That seems correct. only looking for a persons looks makes you shallow. I'd argue the most important is being healthy not having a 10/10 face. Your behavior keeps your partner with you. Lots of good looking people are single because their personality resembles a turd pile.

[Exterminatore]

100%. If you don’t pass the physical attraction test I don’t care what your character is like. We won’t be seeing each other in such a case.

[MikeInHawaii]

I don’t know if there’s a minimum for women. I’m old, fat and bald, but women seem to think I look good in this picture. (It was a friend’s car, though.) I saw a Bentley Continental convertible at a local hotel. The valet said it belonged to the 32-year-old girlfriend of an 89-year-old billionaire. What 89-year-old man isn’t a one or a two?

I’m also not sure how objectively I judge the looks of women I know. One 20-year-old I know I think is absolutely gorgeous. Maybe she’s just average looking, but I’ve known her since she was ten and she was always an absolute sweetheart. I could be judging her looks kindly.

I knew another young lady her age who was on the Hooter’s calendar. She is pretty hot, but I know she’s a stuck up bitch and dumb as a rock. Her looks mean nothing to me.

I also don’t think people only attract those close to themselves on the bell curve. Most women thought Bill Clinton was good looking in his prime. Hillary was already a one in high school.

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[hahahmm]

A woman's physical prime is when she's younger - in almost all cases. In other cases maybe a woman's prime is in her 40s but at some point her looks fade. A man increases in value with age because what women value in a man for marriage isn't whether he looks like a model. It's his achievements, resources, ability to provide. Even if she's a hardcore feminist.

So smart women find a good guy when they're very young & have him locked down as her looks fade. Not so smart women play the field till they're 35-38 and then start whining about how no guys take them seriously. Not even realizing that the reason guys don't take them seriously isn't even mostly about looks but the fact she spent decades focused on her own looks instead of building good character/personality that a man values in a serious relationship.

[shaysh87]

men definitely do not increase in value as they age. I'd take a 30 yr old over a 40 yr old man any day.

[hahahmm]

@shaysh87 See you think you have options but actually no quality dude will take you seriously because you have too much masculine energy. You're like the single moms with 4 kids running around, thinking it's their choice to be with young dudes who have no career or so/so resources. Nope. That's just the only guys who will risk what they have on being involved in her life.

[KelleyNice]

@shaysh87 That is very true.

[hahahmm]

@kelleynice Then you strong independent, masculine minded women better start doing 100% of what men have done for women for eons and stop complaining if men don't give you any traditional benefits. You're the man now. If you have a problem, talk to butch lesbians about it.

[shaysh87]

@hahahmm

Men start hitting the wall by age 35. Then they officially hit the wall by 40. Don't think you will attract more girls by 40 when you start losing hair, getting fat, wrinkly, dick not working sometimes, knee hurting, other age related problems. I like guys in their prime, not some aging dude who needs a cane.

[hahahmm]

@shaysh87 Hey, you keep telling yourself this and you will end up like Madonna.. pathetically having to pay 20 year-old dudes to pretend to be her boyfriend. When the truth is that no quality dude will take her seriously.

[shaysh87]

@hahahmm

What makes you think gold diggers will take you seriously by the time you're wrinkly, fat, losing hair , losing muscle, saggy dick not working? she will just milk you for all you've got and cheat on you with a hot, younger man that she actually wants to fall in love with.

[KelleyNice]

@hahahmm I can have age preference and almost all people do. I prefer to date boys age 13 to 15 and I would never date a guy your age. If that offends you, I can't help it. Why are you suggesting that a 13 year old girl has lesbian tendencies if she won't date a man your age?

[DWornock]

Women are at their prime prior to age 25 and by age 30 their market value has significantly dropped. However, even at age 40 and above women have value.

[shaysh87]

@DWornock

A man's prime is 25 to 35.

[shaysh87]

@DWornock

I will never be attracted to 40 yr old men. Hair loss, weight gain, bald spots, wrinkles, saggy balls that don't work sometimes , knee pain, limp dick will never ever be sexy to me. Don't give a shit about what you have to say.

[hahahmm]

@shaysh87 But see you're the one who is confused about your value. Not me. I know that men give much more than they actually get from women so your comment is pointless.

[hahahmm]

@KelleyNice Of course you can have an age preference... and it can lead to you being alone with 10 cats one day. That's life.

[shaysh87]

@hahahmm

what "value" do you give if I'm not physically attracted to you in the first place? I'm not looking for a fat old saggy mcdaddy to be my husband. No senior citizens

[shaysh87]

@hahahmm

[Of course you can have an age preference... and it can lead to you being alone with 10 cats one day. That's life.]

single women can have kids, single men can't. Its best if you pick out your cats. You're already at the age.

[DWornock]

@shaysh87 Perhaps for someone your age a man's prime is 25 to 35. However, generally it is 20 to 30 and closer to 20 than 30. I know because it was far easier to attract pretty 20 year old girls when I first graduated college than now that I am almost 30. Now my choices are primarily limited to 25 to 30.

[shaysh87]

@DWornock

I think its pointless to think about what you want. Its more so about what you can get. Its easy for me to get a man in his late 20s to mid 30s because I'm 26. But if you're a 45 yr old man obsessing over 25 yr old women, its unlikely you will be able to score any. Even a 30 yr old woman would he hesitant to date a 45 yr old.

[DWornock]

@shaysh87 Why are you lying about your age?

[shaysh87]

@DWornock

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[Anonymous]

Of course looks matter but they're not EVERYTHING. I like to think of being attractive like a degree for dating. You might not even get the interview if your really unattractive (that's just REALITY). But even if you are attractive you still have interview well to get, and perform well to keep the job.

The good news? Most jobs (dates) suck and go nowhere. So don't stress if most people do not find you attractive. Most people don't value your worth anyhow. So by rejecting you they're actually doing you a favor.

[Anonymous]

Looks definitely matter but luckily for us there is no set standard we can beautiful in our own way. I know some men love the way I look and find me stunning and some men find me really average, and some men find me cute. And I find myself average, I never thought I was beautiful. Let’s not despair life is fun and it’s better to smile we can’t change our face anyway (or if you want to it’s fine to but if you don’t then make peace with it).

[shaysh87]

yes of course looks matters. I'm not gonna date someone I'm not physically attracted to. I don't care how much money a man has if he looks like he's almost applying to a senior home in a few years. I'm not gonna marry a guy like that.

[Adaeva]

Looks are not the only thing but generally they are ahead of whatever come in second.

I'm not interested in guys that are not good looking and those guys are not interested in girls if they are not pretty.

[Anonymous]

Yes they do and you already know that still expecting a politically correct response ie. "Looks don't matter" or " I don't see their looks I see their heart" Just one question who can see anyone's heart without x ray or MRI? Is it some superhuman ability like x ray vision that only few people have?

[KelleyNice]

A politically correct response is often the reason. Some people may say looks don't matter because they really haven't though about what they are saying. However, they instantly reject someone they see as unattractive.

[Opinion Owner]

Exactly!

[ethanallen]

Looks are necessary but not sufficient. If a woman is attractive, I will date her.. If she is stupid, I will dump her. So look only gets her in the door. She is going to have to prove herself to keep this thing going.

[DrApocalypse]

This might sum it up, something I heard from Jordan Peterson.

"Men fall in love with what they see. Women fall in love with what they hear (either what you say or the story they tell themselves in their own mind). That's why women wear makeup and men lie.

[Anonymous]

I don't agree with this post. I think looks are subjective and differ from place to place and time to time. What's considered attractive in one country of the world, might not be considered so attractive in another place of the world. It also comes down to individual preferences too... I often hear people saying they don't find some Hollywood celebrities or models attractive

Also, I think rating people's looks on a number scale is very strange.. This is something, I've only seen here on this site, not in real life. I haven't heard anyone saying here's a 4.5, oh she's a 6.78, he's a 3.7, they might say someone's beautiful, average, cute, not my type, but that's it...

[Opinion Owner]

Typo *I haven't heard anyone ever saying

[Opinion Owner]

People, who downvoted this post and believe looks are objective are idiots, narrow-minded and shallow

[Opinion Owner]

By the way, I don't believe you're actually 13. If you really are, you copy paste your answers from Google to sound more intellectual/intelligent, you have admitted that in a previous post

[Opinion Owner]

There are several examples that prove that looks aren't objective and that beauty standards are different from place to place and time to time.
For example, in the Middle Ages and Renaissance period being pale and overweight were beauty markers in the Western world. Nowadays, the exact opposite being tanned and skinny are being praised and are signs of social status in the West, as opposed to East and South Asian countries, where light skin is still associated with wealth, privilege and status and people often go to extreme lengths, and using bleaching creams to meet that standard. In these countries also, softer/rounder features are considered more feminine vS. the angular modelesque look with high cheekbones that is popular in the West
Also, in Latin American countries, being curvy (but not overweight) is considered attractive, as opposed to the US and Europe, where the skinnier/thinner you are, the better-looking you are perceived by people.
In Japan crooked teeth are considered cute and youthful, whereas people in the West, they're seen as a flaw and people get braces to fix that "flaw".
Moreover, an aquiline/Roman nose signified beauty and nobility. Nowadays an upturned nose is ideal and women get a rhinoplasty to correct that feature..

[KelleyNice]

I don't wish to be like many people on this site and say whatever pops into my head. Therefore, when I don't know, I Google and, I may copy and paste. The reason is to be more accurate; not to sound more intelligent. Regardless, I must choose from often conflicting links what to copy from. And, if it is more than 2 a couple (maybe 3) sentences. I usually provide the link unless I'm copying and combining parts from multiple links.

[Rania05]

Looks or a certain or a certain they give their looks is what attracts me, what keeps attracting me afterwards is manners followed by personality. I love opposites as we try to adapt to each other, most of my friends are opposite me in many things.

[Po1989]

Looks do make a big difference in attraction yes, for both men and women Although that alone isn't enough to make someone happy. It sure helps, though.

[Adogdog]

At my age, look are fairly important in looking for a partner.

[Adogdog]

I was just looking at this again. Very interesting My Take!!!

[BJP21]

From my take, looks are not everything. I go by personality and temperament. You can be the most attractive girl, but its your actions and how you treat me and others Ill be keeping score on.

[KelleyNice]

Looks may not be everything and because saying that is politically correct, that is what most people say. However, most people act as if looks is the only thing.

[maximumpower]

If it didn't matter, there would be no "beautiful" or "ugly" people.

Of COURSE it matters!

Damn...

[Sarahplus2]

Physical attraction is important. It's important to be attracted to someone.

[bamesjond0069]

If she's not hot then no way. I need someone to make me part of a hot couple. So no uggos.

[007kingifrit]

looks matter for women more than men, men are genetically wired to pay more attention to the body since a woman has to carry the baby

[Anonymous]

her face doesn't matter so much to me. I live my life through country songs so she just gotta have a "body like a back road" and we're good. 😜

[icetome]

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