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A friend of mine just broke up with her long term boyfriend because she turned down his proposal. A month after she’s already in a new relationship with a guy she met through work. I really don’t want to judge but I just don’t necessarily agree with what she’s doing. A lot of our friends are even shaming her for it and suspecting that there might have been an overlap but hey it’s none of my business.

I've been watching you lot on the run up to the election, which I may add seems to be a permanent thing for you people, every day is campaign day. Take a bloody break.

And what's with constantly trying to own the other side? It's like watching 5 year olds going, "na na na na na na I'm the king of the castle.." it's one step away from sticking your fingers in your ears and blowing raspberries. Do we really need need to make millions of memes and YouTube videos? Why you so obsessed with stirring the pot?

And why's everyone so nasty and full of hate? The language uses isn't very nice is it? Over here we refer to the opposition as the right honourable gentleman on the right/left and not as a libtard or Republicunt, and one certainly does not accuse them of lying, more that they are mistaken or misinformed. You lot seem intent on dehumanising each other, that's how genocides start you know.

And stop worshipping politicians like God's, no other civilised country does this? It makes you look like a Banana Republic on the brink of civil war. Fawning over your leaders like infatuated 12 year old girls at a boy band concert just makes you look ridiculous on the world stage.

Isn't it time you stopped villifing each other, stopped labelling everything a left/right issue to to demolished with gusto, showed some dignity and grew up.

So, I'm quite sensitive when it comes to touch & my boyfriend of more than 2 years is more on the other end of the spectrum. When he's sober, we arrange this well & are both happy, except for the occasional reminder for him to not break my neck when bear hugging me.

I want to clarify, he is a very kind soul, just clumsy, so it's always good intentions from him! But sometimes he accidently hurts me, which annoys me if it's too frequent & that's case when he's drunk. The more drunk/drugged, the worse it gets, as you simply loose control over your body. He tries super hard to give me my space & be veeery careful touching me then, but it's just not working. I'm kind of conditioned at this point that when he comes close to me drunk, he'll likely step on my foot/squeeze me too hard/poke his nose in my eye/get his fingers stuck in my hair, so I tense up as soon as he comes near me in that state. The worst part is that he's especially vulnerable & affectionate when drunk, but I just have to defend my space & tell him off & he can tell I'm not fond of him, which hurts him a lot.

I tried to avoid his drunk/drugged persona (he knows all of this, we communicate about it), but I also don't wanna miss all fun evenings with our friends. Moreover, it's a part of him (which he does not want to give up in this part of his life) and so I sometimes want to be with him in that state too. But it often ends in him being hurt & in a bad mood the next day, trying to recover from the rejections of the previous night and then he's the one needing his space, so I can't hug or kiss him to show him affection then, or to say sorry.

I know the most obvious solution is for me to avoid him in that state. But I wonder if anyone else made such experiences & whether you think this makes us a bad match/myself kind of a bad girlfriend, at least for him, that I can't deal with this? It hurts me a lot to hurt him and I hate myself in those moments for being so mean, I just don't know another way.