Would you judge a friend for moving on to the next relationship so quickly?

[Anonymous]

A friend of mine just broke up with her long term boyfriend because she turned down his proposal. A month after she’s already in a new relationship with a guy she met through work. I really don’t want to judge but I just don’t necessarily agree with what she’s doing. A lot of our friends are even shaming her for it and suspecting that there might have been an overlap but hey it’s none of my business.

I would

Probably not

Depends

[Anonymous]

It’s none of your business yet here you are inviting strangers to cast judgement on this situation and potentially shit talk your own friend🙄. You’ve forgotten only god can judge. You are no where near perfect and I’m sure you and her other gossipy “friends” have done a thing or two that aren’t agreeable as well. In general women don’t make the choice to leave their relationships lightly. We leave once we are fully fed up, so if she’s really done with her ex then how quickly she moves on makes sense, but like you said, in the end it’s none of your business anyway.

[Alwayreckles93]

I am guessing you must be a cheater. 😡😡😡😡😡😡Show yourself. Yet you decide to hide coward.

[Asker]

Which is why I’m asking it here anonymously lol I don’t agree with what she’s doing but like I said I’m not gonna talk shit about her, not even to our other “gossipy friends”. I’m friends with both her and her ex that proposed to her so of course I also feel bad for the guy. My friend (the girl) was already “talking” with her new guy before she broke up with her ex and I never judged her for it. Now she’s confiding to me and our other friends because people are judging her for moving on too quickly hence why I’m asking for other people’s opinions.

[Alwayreckles93]

Well she is entitled to her own voice and opinions.

[Opinion Owner]

@alwaysreckles93 wtf does cheating have to do with anything? Weird comment.
@asker you just make yourself look like a bad, judgmental friend. You know people could comment talking shit or talking bad about her and still made the post. You just make yourself look bored and gossip loving.

[Alwayreckles93]

1 Corinthians 5:1 (ESV)
1 It is actually reported that there is sexual immorality among you, and of a kind that is not tolerated even among pagans, for a man has his father 's wife.

[Opinion Owner]

Yawn, you go around bitching under every comment, who cares what you have to say?

[Opinion Owner]

No one’s talking about cheating you strange woman. She didn’t cheat she was fully single, stop being weird.

[Opinion Owner]

I’m just going to delete your comments because you’re ranting like a lunatic at this point. He friend wasn’t in a relationship to cheat on anyone in so to be going on like this about cheaters is insane. You are clearly bored go tend to your child.

[Opinion Owner]

Cope harder😂

[Asker]

She actually did admit to emotional cheating, she was already talking to the new guy before she broke it off with her ex. I don't care if I am being seen as a judgmental friend because I AM now actually judging her choices.

[Alwayreckles93]

Asker you are free to express the truth. You are telling the truth. This individual here supports cheating apparently now she's twisting things around.

[Opinion Owner]

You are literally the most shitty friend on this planter earth. You are only agreeing with this psychopath because she’s spewing nonsense that works in your favor. Your friend was never cheating and you a judgements piece of trash.

[Opinion Owner]

@alwaysreckles her friend never cheated, you just don’t know how to back down. LIKE I SAID, get a life.

[Opinion Owner]

@asker does she know you talk this much shit and judge her this harshly? Are you perfect? Because I bet the answer is no! I bet you smile in her face and act like everything is cool when it’s not. I wish I could show her this so she could drop you ass and stop confiding is such a shitty person.

[Opinion Owner]

Reported and deleted those trashy comments😘

[Opinion Owner]

Shame on you! Lmao aren’t you supposed to be a woman of god? You’re as big of a liar as the poster who is ALSO ANONYMOUS MIND YOU. Lol it’s so silly to yap about being anon when the woman you’re “defending” is using the feature as well but I digress! Can’t help stupid especially people arguing about shit that isn’t relevant😂

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous Oh my gosh you angry because I pointed out your sins lol.

[Opinion Owner]

Who’s angry? I’m just dismissing you and deleting your comments since you can’t do it for yourself, it’s not that hard to comprehend 😘 you’re the one typing in caps and angry faces spewing irrelevant shit lmao what a joke of a woman and FAKE believer.

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous The fake believer here is you. Oh by the way this didn't came from me. A pastor once said you can not be friends with worldly people like you. You know cheating is wrong. I am way better than you. I wouldn't be surprised one day you will burn in hell lol you got angry at Asker and I because you know well we are 💯 correct. The true Christian does not go around bouncing from guy to guy like you do. I bet you must've have STDs eww gross.

[Opinion Owner]

Yikes, is this a projection? Sounds like it, maybe you should go get those things checked out babe, doesn’t sound very good😳

[Opinion Owner]

You might as well go make your own comment bitch under there lol because we’re done here! Go be mad someplace else❤️

[Alwayreckles93]

I wanted nothing to do with my sister when she left Christianity and decided the demonic ways when she was whoring around I made sure each and every member of the church knew the horrible things my sister had done.

[Alwayreckles93]

Oh no I will keep up with you. Wow using profanity yet you called yourself a Christian If I was your friend I would make sure your disgusting demonic face would get disfellowedship

[Opinion Owner]

Lmao are you bored, lonely or both? I’m not even reading any of that it’s just crazy at this point😂

[Opinion Owner]

Where’s your family? Friends? Because you are not a woman of god and need some support to help you cope!

[Opinion Owner]

Name calling, vulgarity, and you have the nerve to yap? 😂

[Alwayreckles93]

I am way better then you. I bet you must be a polygamist. Your sugar daddy pays for your bills aww.

[Alwayreckles93]

Ok show your face come on message me.

[Opinion Owner]

Girl… your name is literally ALWAYS RECKLESS, holding a baby with no man in the picture lmao I’m just left to assume you’re promiscuous 😂💀

[Opinion Owner]

I’ll show mine once the asker shows hers☺️

[Alwayreckles93]

I am married unlike you chances are you disgusting kids will be bastards with aids

[Alwayreckles93]

Asker Hey asker anonymous has aids.

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous NO I demand you show your face right now!

[Opinion Owner]

Always promiscuous, always boring, always ugly, always a whore, what else does your name stand for?

[Opinion Owner]

Lmao I’d neverrr believe a single thing you say so please don’t waste your pathetic time, thanks😂👍

[Opinion Owner]

Hahahah you’re the reckless one though! Why are you so upsetti spaghetti?

[Alwayreckles93]

What hell does upsetting spaghetti mean? What are you 9 ? Grow up your a grown old woman act like one. You are very immature

[Alwayreckles93]

Honey the whoesnfits perfect for you since you approve of cheating and you told me you actually admitted to me that you are infact a hoe. I am sweet very kind and humble. Person not like you Karen lol

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous you know so well I am way better then you.

[Opinion Owner]

Always projecting, always crying, always LYING😂, I’m sorry but a lot comes with recklessness!

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous you are upset over that fact because I don't agree with your statement. And you can not handle criticism each and every human has the right to his or her's own opinion. You are a narcissist!

[Opinion Owner]

Always whoring, always on her back, always a single mother🥲

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous aww your obsessed with me. Aww you love me so much lol

[Opinion Owner]

Lmao the absolute nerve to say I’m obsessed when you’re under my comment not the other way around😂😂 #alwayslying #alwaysprojecting #alwayswrong

[Alwayreckles93]

You are making false statements. I am sure you for false buspenomy.

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous I hope your parent die

[Opinion Owner]

And you won’t leave my comment! Lmao I mean #alwaysobsessed 💀💀

[Alwayreckles93]

I bet you were born to a teen mom. Aww so tell us how was it being raised by a teen mom? Lol

[Opinion Owner]

Always false, always blasphemous, always a orphaned chid, I’m guessing your parents passed. That’s a lot to put on a stranger but I am sorry nonetheless 😭

[Opinion Owner]

Is that your story? I’ll be sure to add that in! Lmao #alwaysateenmom, you just get worse and worse :(

[Opinion Owner]

😂😂😂😂😂

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous You do love me.

[Opinion Owner]

Girl you’re so mad! Like are you good? Always whining, always projecting, you live up to your recklessness for sure!

[Opinion Owner]

You have no excuse for saying these things yet still being under my comment. Not one! 😂😂😂😂 who loves who?

[Alwayreckles93]

You love me.

[Opinion Owner]

Then I would be under your comment right? Not the other way around?

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous you are the prime example of what happened when a teen mom raises a kid. Your teen parents are useless. Here you are more the welcome to insult my mom I don't care about my mom after she inherited me from her will and decided to give everything to my disgusting sister. Yes my mom is a useless trash. Come on say it I hope your mom dies. Go on I want you to insult my mom.

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous so tell me how was it being raised by a teenage mother?

[Opinion Owner]

Lmao what a shitstorm of a life💀

[Opinion Owner]

I don't know but I’m sure you can tell me all about teenage motherhood #alwaysprojecting #alwaysashamed #alwaysaloser #alwayssingle

[Alwayreckles93]

Your mom provided you a shit storm of life. Wow no wonder. I can see why you turn out the way you did. I am 💯 sure you must be Catholic.

[Opinion Owner]

LOL there’s not a single conversation I can have on here that can make me wish death on someone’s mother, probably because I love mine and you can’t relate.

[Alwayreckles93]

I am brave unlike you hide behind your phone tablet or whatever.

[Opinion Owner]

Always smelly, always unwanted, always unloved😂

[Opinion Owner]

Lmao so is the asker hiding too?

[Alwayreckles93]

Bottom line your teenage mother should have aborted you.

[Opinion Owner]

Is the asker hiding as well?

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous yeahy mom can die I can care less about my mom. It was her jo to ass me down her money. I don't lovey mother. But I hope your mommy dies. How do wish your mother to die boobie cancer? Illnesses?

[Opinion Owner]

Cool story, is the asker hiding as well?

[Alwayreckles93]

You copy that from some other user on here. Exterminator yeah he is a good friend of mine. I will tell him

[Alwayreckles93]

Asker question she xan do whatever she wants. You didn't answer my question ! How do you want your mommy to die?)

[Opinion Owner]

Great input! So is the asker hiding too?

[Opinion Owner]

Lmao so she is also all the things I am as an anonymous user! Wow! You really are as dumb as you look😂 and please stop mentioning how you want your mother to die, you may hate yours but I don’t hate mine😘

[Alwayreckles93]

Answer my question or I will make sure your account gets frozen!

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous it's an order you disgraceful disgusting demonic trash!

[Opinion Owner]

LOL you say that while the question you want me to answer can get you banned😂😂 always STUPID

[Alwayreckles93]

Oh no I will keep repeating it. I will not stop I am boss babe. So how do you want your mom to die?

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous So how do you want your mom to die?

[Opinion Owner]

Always stupid, always a hooker, always on her back, always single😂😂

[Opinion Owner]

Always motherless, always redundant, always bored 😂😂

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous Oh your mom is stupid ok well duh she was only 16 when she birthted you. I can see that no need for you to tell me. Ok so how will your mom die?

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous I am always humble. I am always sweet , always kind. You on the other hand your a narcissistic. Yes you are the prime example of a
Narcissistic human.

[Opinion Owner]

Always crying😂😂

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous how what if yourom gets cancer?

[Opinion Owner]

Always smelly, always projecting💀 thank you for this laugh! Seeing your big round face in that picture as a single parent makes it even more hilarious 😂😂

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous your the single mom with a bastard.

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous tell me how would you want your mom to die?

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous of cancer

[Opinion Owner]

Lol not my fault you were reckless now you have to deal with the consequences 😂😂

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous tell your sugar daddy to pay for your airline ticket fly your ugly nose to Utah and you and I can get to business face to face.

[Opinion Owner]

You’re the single mother I’m sure you know all about sugar daddies and stds😂

[Opinion Owner]

Always projecting though🙃

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous not my fault your useless mother didn't know how to raised you. Thanks to your disgusting useless mom people have to deal with your narcissistic face.

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous Oh your mom is smelly ok. Not my business on ok your mom's doesn't wash her hairy privets.

[Opinion Owner]

Lmaooo why are you so maddd omg😂😂😂💀 I’m literally crying so thanks! Hahahahah

[Opinion Owner]

This is just like another level of crazy but I guess that comes with triggering the reckless!😭💀

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous yeah I hatey own millennial generation. Expecting your sugar daddy to pay for your bills. You narcissist.

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous wow you truly are narcissistic.

[Opinion Owner]

“Hairy privets” I’m howling!! Omg😂😂😂

[Opinion Owner]

You sound like an illiterate pirate 😂😂😂😂

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous your mommy is a illiterate pirate ok

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous Anyway how old is your mom and what she does for living?

[Opinion Owner]

Hahahahaahhah girl!😂😂💀💀

[Opinion Owner]

Is English your first language? Genuine question lmao then this will make more sense😂😂

[Alwayreckles93]

Yeah I do wish my mom dies. Lol

[Opinion Owner]

Sorry you feel that way, I don’t wish that for your mom, someone has to show her some love since you don’t 😘❤️

[Alwayreckles93]

I'm from France.

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous I demand you answer my question lady. How old is your mom?

[Opinion Owner]

That makes me feel bad, do you need someone to talk to?

[Opinion Owner]

Do you have any friends around to vent to about your issues with your mom and sister? Maybe therapy?

[Opinion Owner]

Demand? Excuse you stranger…

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous I do need a negative narcissistic like you.

[Opinion Owner]

And you’ve been positive? lol now THAT is true narcissism💀

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous my sister and parents left the church and I am not allowed to associate with them they decided to become Catholic there. Yet you have the nerve to tell me to stop asking how I want my mom to die. I want that disgraceful disgusting trash to get cancer.

[Opinion Owner]

Well you need someone, you are a very angry woman and based on your issues plus single motherhood I can see why. Speak with a therapist.

[Opinion Owner]

You say that until she actually gets cancer then you would feel horrible. Stop throwing death around like that wishing it on people then calling yourself a Christian, none of that is what a Christian does. You should wish her health!

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous I am not a single mother. I'm angry because family members decided to be Catholic. Now please I want you to say negative thing and please I want you to talk bad about my mom. They left the church.

[Opinion Owner]

I’d never wish death on anyone. Not my style.

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous what makes you think I'm a single mother when I'm really not. I am angry when parents live religion you will understand. Now. why aren't talking negatively about my mom when I want you to do so?

[Opinion Owner]

With a name like always reckless and that baby in your arms I disagree lol but why do you care what I think or what I believe? I don’t care about you so it should be a mutual feeling. If you want to slander your mom and wish death on her that’s your prerogative, I don’t have that kind of hate in my heart.

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous I am wishing my mom gets cancer and I DO NOT REGRET IT LOL Come on make fun of my mom laugh with me.

[Opinion Owner]

You’re very strange for that.

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous DO NOT TELL ME TO STOP! I can throw death around if I want to. But you are hateful person.

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous I see you are the narcissistic human here.

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous sto telling people what to do!

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous I am not obligated to wish my mother health. I hopey mom gets sick 😂😂😂😂

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous no I am just in a mood to find with someone. I choose you come on let's keep fighting.

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous well my church leader said the same thing my mom will get cancer lol 🤣🤣🤣🤣 for leaving the church.

[Alwayreckles93]

You there? Come on let's keep fighting

[Opinion Owner]

Why would I want to talk to someone who says such horrid things about their parent and invites people to do the same? You are mentally disturbed. Also it’s Saturday, I have a life, sorry if you can devote each second of your day to this conversation😂

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous it is not my obligation to lovey parents! I do whatever I want. And you should shaunned your parents as well. I say those things because I CAN DO WHATEVER I WANT!

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous If you were truly religious you would understand. My church leader told me to cut them off. I demand you support my choice.

[Opinion Owner]

Okaaay lol so do what you want?

[Opinion Owner]

I don’t care what you do enough to support it or not lol

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous Hey You sound familiar are you that one 31 year old chick who still works retail?

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous with that retail chick I had an argument with her because she went to Cancun and got drunk. I am assuming it's you.

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous and why do have a problem if people wish cancer on their parents?

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous I try to get a cashier's fired at target today so I am angry I decided to fight with you and get all my anger out on you instead.

[Opinion Owner]

I don’t care what you do lol does that hurt your feelings or something? Why do you want me to talk about your parents so bad? Weird weird weird. And no I am not whoever this person is working retail.

[Opinion Owner]

Why are you dropping all your life problems here? I didn’t ask a single thing about you or your day like please get some friends or something.

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous I invited you to shunned your parents. You must and see your life will be full happiness. What do I want? Let's see get my frustration out on you since the manager didn't fired his. employee at Target. 2. I am very angry you told me to respect my mom. You what lady you GIVE RESPECT YOU EARNED RESPECT! I don't care If you called me weird growing up I was the different kid in n the school and I was always label as weird. I never fit in with the millennial generation anyway.

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous millennial men are useless I am boss babe. I don't need a men's wallet. I'm super woman.

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous I don't care if you didn't ask me. I am boss babe and I can do whatever I want. Even if you don't want me to I will drop it anyway.

[Alwayreckles93]

Listen woman no one tells me stop I can do whatever I wish.

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous do you even know who I am? My grandfather is a. famous judge.

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous Hey aren't you going to keep fighting?

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous I demand you answer; NOW!

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous yeah I agree with generation X millennials are useless.

[Alwayreckles93]

Asker yeah look at this user. She is the prime example of narcissistic.

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous ok you useless trash are you there?

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous well aren't you going to answer?

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous I curse you I wish you get breast cancer!

[Alwayreckles93]

Si aren't you going to say anything B***

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous your the one who said cheating is on yet you are here. We are no done here b***your useless mother should have aborted your disgusting useless ass. DON'T TELLING ME TO WISH HEALTH ON MY MOM B*** MY MOM CAN DIE FOR ALL I CARE ! DO NOT TELL ME TO STOP. I DO WHAT I WANT B****

[Asker]

She did cheat and she admitted to it. She was already talking to the new guy and went out with him before she broke up with her ex. That’s why we’re side eyeing her for immediately jumping into a new relationship. Last I heard, her new man cheated on her and she’s been begging for him to stay, even went as far as saying that she’ll be okay with being the side chick. I may be a shitty friend but I will no longer associate with her for being a shitty person. She’s in her late 30s and she should know better but I will just cut ties with her and she’s free to do as she please. Just hope that she will find her happiness.

Please refrain from making judgements about people if you don’t know the entire story next time around xx

[Asker]

She knows that I am judging her. She’s been going down a spiral so we called her out on it and confronted her in person. Idc if she wants to jump into a new relationship right after the previous one even if it’s just a rebound, some people move on quick. BUT she chose to cheat and is now basically the side chick - I hate cheaters and I will judge them for it.

[Asker]

Okay ladies, let’s just agree to disagree…

I never intended for this question to spark such heated arguments. You’re both entitled to your own opinions as am I, we just might not see things eye to eye.

Let’s just get things straight. Cheating is BAD, my friend openly admitted to have cheated and is continuing to do so, so she’s no longer my friend. I just won’t associate with anyone who is okay with cheating or who excuses/justifies the actions of a cheater. I am openly judging her for CHEATING but not for moving on fast. I have called her out on it in person but instead she said she’s okay with being the other woman. I will just stop associating with her and mind my own business from here on out.

I’m sure the both of you are wonderful lovely ladies in your own way. I’m sorry if anything I said came across as an attack but that was not my intention, English isn’t my first language and I just asked this question to spark a healthy discussion. I don’t necessarily see any wrong answer, I might not agree to some but doesn’t mean that’s it’s the wrong answer.

Best of luck moving forward tho!

[Opinion Owner]

I’m not reading anymore of this conversation, it’s gone on too long and too nonsensical. Asker, the things being said here there’s no being biased about, once she’s started wishing death and cancer it became absolutely condemnable and you’re choosing to overlook that since she “defended” you. Anyway, I’d appreciate you delete my comment off here. Just tap the top three dots and delete so neither of us have to receive anymore notifications about this conversation.

[Opinion Owner]

Also asked I think that is the best choice, stay out of each others lives since you can no longer be her friend without judging. It isn’t healthy for either of you.

[Opinion Owner]

*also asker

[Asker]

I wasn’t really reading the comments in between, my phone was lagging like crazy. That’s not cool if she was wishing death and cancer like that… sorry I missed that. I’ll go ahead and block her as well. Thanks again anon

[Asker]

Do I just report the comment?

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks, I don’t know how she spiraled off into that line of rhetoric but that’s just too far. No you don’t have to report, it should be there to delete, but if you. Locked her that should be enough as well! You see how she spams comments, I’d rather you and I both be done with that.

[Opinion Owner]

**blocked her

[Asker]

It only says “report” and “I don’t want to see this” 😅

And yeah it was definitely way too far. I was just slowly scrolling and going through the comments just now and damn…

[Opinion Owner]

Oh okay, don’t worry about it then.

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous SHUT UP YOUR USELESS MOTHER

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous you disgraceful millennials. And you are angry because you wanted me to agree with you. You started name calling yet you want me to respect your ass. You are childish and immature. You must be a hoe no wonder why you condone cheating. Your ass is a coward! you useless trash. I am 💯👌 way better then you.

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous I see your mistake of a mother file you so bad your own mother's fault. I hate to say it but not everyone is going to like you on this earth not everyone is obligated to like you. I can't stand your ass.

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous and I am still waiting ony questions! I DEMAND YOU ANSWER IT!!!

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous you want here to delete your comment? for what so that people don't see how disgusting and evil you are?

[Alwayreckles93]

Well if your ass is so broke it's your fault not the government IF YOU FILE IN LIFE IT'S YOUR FAULT NOT THE ECONOMY OR THE GOVERNMENT!

[Alwayreckles93]

Oh sorry wrong post

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous well asked is on my side not yours. Weird you demand respect what you don't respects others. Your want everyone to agree with your comment. Let me tell you not everyone has to agree with you. Yet you said I've gone to far when your the one who started this mess. Now you want asker to love you. Your pathetic. You made false statements about me and yet you are demanding me to respect you. Your a disgusting human. I am starting to agree with generation X you millennials are useless to society.

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous the one who needs her ass block is YOU!

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous You don't want to answer now because you can not handle Criticism.

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous how about you tell asker you had the nerve to privately message me and attacked me. Show your face you coward.

[Alwayreckles93]

Asker this individual literally went on my message and told me that she hope my kids dies.

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous Weird you made false statements about me yet you went on my private message and insulted you told me attacked me and you said you hope my baby girl dies. You called a single lol weird I am one of Jehovah's witness and that is against my religion if I were a single mom I would been disfellowedship. If I speak to my parents or not it's none of your business.

[Alwayreckles93]

Asker this individual is horrible she message me privately attacked me she told me that she hope my baby girl dies and then went on insulted my religious beliefs made fun of me for being one of Jehovah Witness. She is nasty and horrible. As you can see she made false statements about me. Now she's making her self as if she's the victim this woman is a narcissist.

[Opinion Owner]

I’ve never spoken to you before or messaged you privately so let’s not lie. All these spam messages ranting and raving make you look so unhinged but go ahead crazy, keep talking to yourself 😂

[Opinion Owner]

She blocked you, and so did I ☺️ the only reason you can still comment here is because we are anonymous but I pinky swear you are now speaking into the void and this conversation is over. You need a mental health analysis this is not normal.

[Alwayreckles93]

Anonymous well I am sure Asker is not interested in being friends with you. And if I am rude to you it's your own fault hey you asked for it! So the fault is your's!

[Anonymous]

yes. and i have judged a friend for that. because she's done it multiple times. i've known her for like decades. and she probably only been single for a week total! it is okay to be single. it is okay to be independent. being single does not make you a loser or worthless in any sense. god. find yourself. appreciate your alone time. grow as a person that doesn't need another person to make them feel worth something in society.

[Asker]

Some people do move on very quickly which I can understand, but I agree, I think it's better to take some time off in between just to really reflect on the past relationship and how it affected you right

[Opinion Owner]

yes. in my friends case, i think she has BPD and a lot of pent up issues that she doesn't let surface. i just wish she'd take some time for herself to really find herself and what she wants and not there to just please a guy so she can have a relationship so she doesn't "die alone". she has modified her personality so much just to keep someone. i do feel for her and do feel sad for her. but hopefully she'll turn out okay

[Asker]

Yeah it is sad… sometimes being alone is great because it allows you to really focus on yourself and grow as a person. Sadly some people just can’t stand being single

[Purpleronnie]

I wouldn’t say I would judge but I would almost certainly remind them that it’s healthier to give yourself more time to process and consider what you want going forward.


As her new partner I would certainly be a a kind of warning sign that she may not be in the right place for a new relationship.


I couldn’t imagine hopping from one relationship to another , the fact that they think they are ready suggests that she should have ended the previous one long before the proposal. Again this wouldn’t help me believe she knows what she wants !

[Asker]

Couldn't agree more! At the end of the day it is her and her new man's choice to enter into a new relationship shortly after a new one. She did admit that she was already talking to the new guy before ending it with her ex, she never realized how much she was over her ex until after he proposed. Sad it had to happen that way but I'm glad they managed to get it all sorted out.

[HawkPerception]

No I would not. Different people process things at different rates. I've always gotten over past breakups fairly easily. The way I see it is, if someone doesn't see the value in being with me, then why would I fight to be with that person or even WANT to be with them?

However, if I can see that my friend processes things more slowly and clearly still has feelings for their past partner, then I'd communicate that they're probably not ready for another relationship at the moment.

[Asker]

Absolutely! People move on in their own paces. As long as they get into the relationship without carrying unprocessed feelings from their past breakup then I don't see anything wrong with it.

[AviatorTom]

Moving on quickly from a relationship is the best way to get over the relationship. That's especially true when you are the one breaking up, like in this post.

I would never judge anyone. Their relationships are their business, not mine, unless I am directly affected.

[Asker]

Lol you know what they say, the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else

[Finchie40]

Yes, some people just have a hard time being alone and hurry up and start a relationship with someone new , they look for a rebound basically, so the guy she is dating now is a rebound

[Asker]

I would hope not. She told me and a few other friends that she’s had a crush on this new guy before they break up so when her ex proposed it just sealed the fact that she wasn’t into her ex anymore. Sad that it happened this way.

[Finchie40]

Yea sadly things like this happen , when someone meets someone they feel is better than their current partner and instead of investing their time into their partner , they invest their time into someone else while stringing their partner along for the ride. It’s selfish behavior

[Asker]

I agree. She should have ended it with her ex as soon as she developed interest in the new guy tbh. Nothing wrong with that.

[Finchie40]

Exactly , but instead she chose to string him along while investing her time into this other guy , if the other guy was wise he shouldn’t even give her a chance , it will just be a matter of time until she does this to him

[Asker]

They’ve been dating for a while now but only recently have our friend group been talking about them again, apparently the new guy is cheating on her…

[Finchie40]

Just goes to show why people shouldn’t invest their time into someone else until they are officially single , The new guy is cheating because he figures she is a cheater as well, by her investing her time into him , instead of investing her time into her boyfriend instead. I been the other guy a handful of times and this is usually what happens, when I know a girl is cheating on her husband or boyfriend for me , I already know she isn’t a loyal person , she is just a piece of ass to me and I will make it clear to her that this is just sex and nothing more , if she wants to be with me she has to prove to me she is ending her relationship before we even go any further then I think it will just be a matter of time until she does this shit to me , why most people do not want to be rebounds

[Finchie40]

Sorry to say but your friend dug her own grave with this one

[Asker]

Makes sense. If you start a relationship with lies (even unknowingly) then you’re likely to view it as less serious. I guess the other guy got what he wanted is now off somewhere with a new girl…

[Finchie40]

Yea the new guy just wanted sex , he knew she had a boyfriend already but he figured why not if she is throwing herself at me , he mynas well take advantage of it and get laid but then he realized this girl isn’t a loyal person so he decided not to stay with her and found himself a girl that is single that isn’t cheating on anyone. So by your girlfriend going back to her boyfriend while she was investing her time into this new guy, the new guy said Fuck That

[Asker]

Yeah, it's sad... I mean we're getting too old for these drama so watching all this unfold is just exhausting but I can't say to her that I've told her so

[Finchie40]

What is her ex up to? Did he move on as well

[Asker]

He’s still single and busy working on his business. It seems like her new relationship is also coming to an end, the guy is leaving her for the girl he cheated on her with… I’m just rooting for her ex and her separately now and wishing them both the best lol

[Finchie40]

Well hopefully she learned her lesson not to be selfish person anymore , Relationships aren’t hard , selfish people make them hard , The other guy was wise not to stay with her , he got what he wanted and kicked her to the curb where she belongs Cheaters never finish last , your girlfriend is a cheater by her investing her time into that guy while she had a boyfriend, making her a selfish POS person , Karma is a bitch

[Asker]

Yep it’s definitely karma at play. I definitely will be keeping my distance from her because I can now see that our principles are not aligned. I just hope she can find happiness elsewhere.

[Finchie40]

She will eventually if she learned from her mistake , if not she is shit outta luck and will keep continuing her path of Karma

[Asker]

Let’s just hope for the best for her then. I’m keeping my distance because she’s been making a fuss about the whole thing as of lately and she’s still going after/not letting go of her recent man that cheated

[Finchie40]

LOL she is crazy

[Asker]

Yeah… she’s now saying that she’s okay with being a side chick… I don't know what happened to her. She was an amazing friend/partner, she had it all together but now she’s being childish and toxic

[Finchie40]

Yea it sounds like she is making excuses for her selfish behavior , she can’t just admit she was wrong

[Asker]

I think you’re right. Can’t believe she’s off destroying another relationship…

[lightbulb27]

raise an eye brow...

takes time to heal from prior, but as well... sometimes a person is well moved on by time it finally ends. So as long as she isn't dragging the past into current, or trashing the past with this other guy, it's ok. One has to wonder right?

The other issue is her clock is ticking and only so many opportunities... she's boy crazy until has two or so kids, then she will figure out all the other stuff.

[Asker]

Couldn’t have said it better! I think she’s already emotionally checked out of her previous relationship, it happens. I’m just side eyeing her a bit because there was an overlap between her ex and the new guy.

She was my senior in college and she’s currently in her late 30s but she’s not planning on having kids so I don’t think she’s worried about her biological clock though.

[lightbulb27]

thank you, good luck with her!

[Asker]

Thank you!!

[molonski2]

Its none of your business nor anybody else's , she wanted to split with this guy for numerous reasons , she didn't want to marry this guy..

Its her life she can do as she wishes , there is no place for judgement.

[Asker]

Absolutely, I guess our friend group are just taking sides because both her and her ex are in the same friendship circle.

[Nikki1989]

No, people move on at a different pace. I have moved on in the same day as a break-up. There are no right or wrong answers to this conundrum.

[Asker]

Good point! I know for a fact that I usually emotionally check out of the relationship before the official break up

[Alwayreckles93]

You have everything right. What's wrong it's wrong. You are a Truth teller. And people hate on truth tellers.

[Asker]

I don’t agree with how she’s going about this whole thing but at the same time I can’t really judge her for it, she’s an adult but still it doesn’t sit right with me…

[Alwayreckles93]

Girly its not judging it's correcting. It's ok when people do wrong things it's ok to correct them and point them out.

[Asker]

Yeah... I'm not about to tell her what to do but I have reminded her that talking to another guy while still in a relationship with someone else is basically cheating

[Alwayreckles93]

Asker Cut her off you don't need that negativity.

[Alwayreckles93]

Asker Yeah I just had a huge argument with that individual.

[Asker]

I don’t get why she’s so pressed about this… I mean she’s entitled to her own opinion but I don’t get why she’s getting so worked up about this 😅.

[Alwayreckles93]

She messaged me and insulted me. Im not that hateful person but this individual made false comments about me yet demands respect.

[Asker]

Oh my… I think it’s best to just block so that you two can go your separate ways… We need to maintain our peace and not give our energy and time to toxic people

[Alwayreckles93]

You are absolutely correct 💯💯💯💯😊

[Asker]

Have a blessed day!!

[Emmytexrex]

I wouldn't judge her but what I will say is he was a second choice or she was just keeping him along for another guy to come so that's what happened here but yh that's her choice she should be careful though

[Asker]

She admitted that she didn’t realize she was “settling” with her ex until she met the other guy. Just gonna wish her the best from afar I guess

[WhitneySnow]

No not at all. Sounds like her old relationship wasn’t working so she moved on to a new one. Totally normal.

[Asker]

Totally makes sense!

[elizamichale1]

Not at all because if someone has left them or they left someone its better to move on as soon as they can instead of sobbing for weeks

[Asker]

True, as long as you're not using the new person as a rebound (or at least gotta make sure that they're okay with it lol) then I don't see anything wrong

[elizamichale1]

Well the truth is... first few weeks r going to be more of a rebound but then u develop a deeper connection...

[Asker]

Also true. As long as the person is not being strung along then I don’t see anything wrong with having a rebound to help you move on

[elizamichale1]

Yeahh

[strateguy632]

I would "judge" that did the right thing.

[Asker]

Yeah to each their own I guess lol

[DizzyDesii]

I’m that friend, so how could I judge. Shit i prob encouraged em 😂

[Asker]

Lol I mean to each their own. I did this too back when I was younger but my ex and I were already on a trial break up for months before the actual break up.

[DizzyDesii]

I've never cheated but i can't control how soon i move on. Anytime I've broken up with someone or vice versa, the emotions were gone before it happened. So that makes it easier to move on faster

[Asker]

That makes total sense! I think as long as there's no overlap then it's all good, people move on at different paces

[Jay-_-]

I wouldn't go as far as to say "judge" but I would tell em that it's not right, because it's not. re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

[Asker]

Honestly same. I don’t think it’s right either but she has free will and I won’t shame her for it.

[Jay-_-]

Yees

[Malbonaviro]

If she has a child already, then yes. She's abusing the child rather she believes it or not, not that she cares.

[Asker]

Thankfully she doesn't yet

[LiamJHayden]

Definitely not. I am not going to torment myself or pass up on a good lady because something else did not work out, even if it ended yesterday.

[Asker]

I like your perspective on this, thanks for sharing!

[Samster1]

I just hope they would take some time off and make a rational decision.

[Asker]

I agree. People should take some time to reflect and heal from the previous relationship before moving onto the next, don’t wanna be bringing baggage into the new relationship right.

[Samster1]

They try to remove pain by being in another relationship and if you aren't moved from one how can you expect to move to another
PS I also was one of those people.
Now I wonder around not seeking relationships

[Asker]

So basically a rebound?

[Luopio27]

I am not a judge so no I dont care about how slow or fast they move in and out of bed or relationships!

[Asker]

True! It’s better to maintain your peace and worry about your own bed

[Luopio27]

Same thing applies for getting kids. A world puts a lot of peer pressure into bodycounts, ages when virginity is lost, beauty/status contests and what not!

If a friend knocks up or gets knocked up, and ends up regretting getting pregnant with the wrong person, its on them.

With freedoms of choices comes responsibilities that friends dont cover.

[Asker]

Couldn’t agree more. We can judge all we want but at the end of the day, it’s their choice and their responsibility.

[Alex-Snow]

Not at all... some people want to get back to life and socializing

[Asker]

True!

[Anonymous]

Either love her for who she is or leave her be.

[Asker]

Yep. I don’t agree with her decision but I’m not gonna crucify her for it, they’re both adults and I’m sure they know what they’re doing

[Anonymous]

It's like my ex best friend
from HS told me...

that was A bitch move 🙄

[Asker]

So I'm guessing you didn't agree with what she was doing hence why she's now your EX best friend?

[Anonymous]

Mind ur business. Why don't u focus on why you're 30-35 with no husband or kids of ur own

[Asker]

I'm engaged and it is none of my business, nothing wrong with asking what other people think about this whole thing though.

[Opinion Owner]

I highly doubt you are if you were u wouldn't be in someone else's business. Focus on obtaining a husband and reproducing because your clock is ticking. And engaged isn't a husband

[Asker]

She made it my business because she dragged me into it, asking me and our other friends to pick a side between her or her ex. I’ve decided to cut ties with her because I don’t agree with what she’s doing especially since she’s now openly trying to mess with other people’s relationship.

I will focus on reproducing and wedding planning, thanks.

[Anonymous]

I think it would be annoying if she constantly talked about the new guy now. If she doesn’t then I don’t see a need to pry.

[Asker]

She’s mostly complaining that people are judging her and not accepting her new man. I think it’s because both her and her ex (that proposed to her and got rejected) are in our friend circle so people are taking sides.

[Woyboy]

None of my business they need to be happy

[Asker]

Great mindset!

[Woyboy]

Thanks

[Account]

Nope.

[Asker]

Valid!

[Slim57]

Yeah my mom did it too and I didn't agree with it

[Asker]

How soon is too soon do you think?

[Slim57]

Anything before 6 months

[Asker]

I gotta agree. Especially if it was a long term relationship

[paledreams]

I would 👀👀👀👀

[Asker]

Why though?

[paledreams]

Because my brain allows me 🧠