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I gathered the courage to ask her and she kindly said yes but the problem is I didn't specify where to go and I've got no idea what is the best first date location? We "know" each other only from passing.

Never had such a trouble to ask a girl out if I'm tbh, she made me so nervous.

So which location/activity do you think is the best?
My date seems to be more on the shy side, introverted maybe but she's friendly and cracking jokes here and there. She also seems to be into cars which is awesome.

I've been an introvert for as long as I can remember, I've always kept to myself and often view the "popular crowd" very negatively, often seeing them as nothing more than immature entitled brats who will get nowhere when their parent's money runs out.

While that is most definitely a harsh characterization, it is an experience I've had frequently with those who consider themselves extroverts. I also find that these people are often real life examples of the Dunning-Krueger effect in that they're supremely confident that they know everything while simultaneously knowing absolutely nothing, which explains why these people are so liberal and dogmatic in their viewpoints.

For these reasons, I don't think it could ever work with an extrovert, although my first girlfriend was a conservative extrovert as they apparently exist, however she ended up sorta not really cheating on me. She ghosted me after being official for 6 months and reappeared only when I begged someone who knew her for an explanation and she'd gone with someone else as she then told me.

I've become much more assertive in the past year but still remain an introvert, not liking big crowds and rarely enjoying small talk unless it's with my current girlfriend who I've been with for the past 2 years following the fiasco that my ex created above. I see most extroverts as people who simply follow the herd, not taking a single moment to question what they're being told, or not being capable of thinking for themselves. Of course that isn't true for all of them but it is in my experience for most of them.

My girlfriend has become more assertive as well, not afraid to present an opposing argument and won't nod her head simply to avoid a debate. I'm the same way and the idea of nodding my head in agreement or staying quiet when I have an opposing opinion is a crazy idea to me. Me and my girlfriend are doing great and I couldn't be happier with her☺️
Do you date introverts or extroverts?

Black male's experience in college

" Back in college I’ve seen the sexiest Asians just throw themselves heavily at white guys. It was a surreal experience to say the least. I thought I had some sort of favoritism being an exotic, good looking black guy.

I never dated at all in high school, so had no idea what to expect in freshmen year, but I remember the first girls I ever talked to were Asian & they wanted nothing to do with me. I had a white girl that I befriended and at my first big social circle, she was my wing women & everything she told me to say seemed really good. I had no idea how to interact with women myself but the Asian girls still seemed just… indifferent, like they had no reaction to me & it wasn’t fun. Everyone else I encountered freshmen year was extremely social & fun to talk to.

It was probably because they knew I was talking to them with romantic intent & didn’t want to lead me on or had no interest. Then I asked a close white friend and he told me that Asian girls don’t like black guys, they are obsessed with whites, don’t take it personally. Some time later next semester, I got semi close to an Asian girl whose a friend of my best friend.

When we all hung out, she talks about the little things her boyfriend does that she doesn’t like but she gets very gushing about him anyway. Fast forward to sophomore second semester we were all hanging out in the student game room… she reads her phone text & begins crying & runs to the bathroom. My friend and I share a concerned face. Never knew what happened but I thought that this boyfriend must be a real catch. Until I saw his pictures and he was a very chubby, very average or a bit below average white guy. This girl was a 5ft Asian girl with perfect features everywhere, and had a very bubbly, love-able personality. Fast forward 2 years later, they break up. It’s revealed the dude she gave so much love to saw her as a fetish to release all his desires upon."

So i joined a new CrossFit gym and there is a very attractive young lady I occasionally get into small talk with. She smiled a lot today when we chatted. She knows I like her. However she has never initiated conversation with me so far. I usually say hello first. But she does engage with me when I ask her what’s she been up to.

Truth is I literally have no idea how old she is. She could be 19 or should could be 30. I’m guessing I am 10 to 12ish years older. However I’m in excellent shape and I’ve gotten dates with younger woman before. She’s also witnessing me engage in an activity where I usually out perform all the other guys around me. That doesn’t hurt. I am a former profesional mma fighter.

Anyway I am looking for an opportunity to get to know her better. However given she’s very attractive I wouldn’t be surprised she already has a boyfriend. Would it better to ask about that first or would a guy look more confident if I just straight up asked for a date? If we were the same age I would just ask her out. But being that I’m older I’m more careful about this.

If I find out she has a boyfriend then I won’t pursue it any further. I usually run into her once or twice a week. I just don’t want to make the future awkward if I straight up ask her out and she turns me down. I won’t take it personally if she’s not interested. But I go to CrossFit to relieve exercise and I just want to avoid any future awkwardness/drama