Is "going for a walk on the beach at sunset" a bad idea for a first date if you met the guy online?

[Anonymous]

My female brain is screaming at me that this might be a bad idea

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It's his idea for the date

[Lliam]

First, it sounds like he wants to get you alone.
Also, he's a cheepskate.

I'd warn against it.

Something like that should be reserved for once you know and trust each other.

A first date is not a hook up. It's for getting a sense of each other and should be in a public setting like a restaurant or even coffee shop.

[RuthlessAggression]

Prob.

But, it depends on why you want to go. If you can explain it to us, or him, why youd want to go to the beach for the first "date", then maybe he'll be ok with it

[Asker]

It's his idea for the date

[RuthlessAggression]

ah, then ask him

[RuthlessAggression]

why he wants to

[WhereIsMyMind]

If your instincts are making you feel some kind of way, it's almost always best to listen to them. He could well be a decent guy, but if I were you I would meet him in a public place, at least for the 2-3 dates. Personally I believe that it's best to get a gist of someone before spending time together in more intimate surroundings.

[luxxoxo]

Go to a public beach ! That way I’d something were to happen you can yell for help.

[Akanzal]

Yeah it sounds like a bad idea for a first date, but don't rule him or the beach date out save it for the 2-3rd date. The first date is a test to be sure that he's not a psycho. Ask to do something else.

[Akanzal]

If he's kind of insistent on the beach date then that's suspicious.

[NZGirl07]

I agree it sounds like it might be a dangerous situation. He may be completely normal but suggest other public dates first.

[NathanDavis]

it is not a bad idea...

why would you ever think it is a bad idea?

[Asker]

I am a small woman... it's scary! It's scary to think I could be raped or something

[NathanDavis]

well... two different things here

if you are meeting someone you just met online and have no certainty of what kind of person he is, then yes... that does not sound like a good idea

but the plan for a date, that is different and that sounds like a good idea, as a plan for a date, lol

as for him assaulting... if you think that's a possibility then just remain in a public area where there's enough people around and not so far

[Anonymous]

Honestly, he should be sensitive and aware enough that he is putting you in a situation where he could take advantage of you because you’re alone or isolated from others.

[Gent207]

As a hopeless romantic I live for that cheesy romantic stuff!

[Andres77]

It's crazy stupid!
Being alone at night with someone you don't know is as stupid as you can possibly get?

[downtowndiner]

It’s awful that you have to even have this thought. anyone should be able to walk anywhere, even after dark!
But be safe. If you have any reason to doubt him, maybe don’t do it.

[driven159]

I don't know why beach and sunsets are very nice and many do that everyday sunup and sunset

[cootjuhh]

pretty romantic. and yeah maybe other things will happen

[serious]

I don't think that is a good idea

[sheikalana]

It's actually a great idea.

[PatriceONeal]

This girl is 30 something

[In_Trance]

why would this be bad?

[Anonymous]

That's a fantastic idea.