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Long story short, I am having trouble picking between two men that are both amazing but in very different ways. They are complete opposites and both having qualities I love. I met guy#1 several months ago and we both instantly felt an intense pull towards each other the moment we met. Our chemistry was out of this world. I had never felt that way about a man before. I was just drawn to him in every way possible. Unfortunately, I realized early on that we were not that compatible in terms of our lifestyle and personalities. He's very independent and career oriented where as I am extremely clingy and family oriented. He had also just gotten out of a relationship so he was not consistent or ready for anything serious and because of that, he ended things with me so I wouldn't waste time on him. Fast forward a few weeks, I met guy#2. This guy is everything I was looking for in a man. He is consistent, caring, emotionally available, clingy (just like me), and extremely family oriented and ready for something serious. The downside was that I did not feel that initial "out of this world" chemistry with him that I felt with guy#1 even though guy#2 is compatible with me in every way and everything I'm looking for in a partner. Guy#2 and I still have great chemistry, just not magical like it was with guy#1. Fast forward a few more weeks, guy#2 and I are getting pretty serious now and guy#1 suddenly enters my life again wanting a second chance. Time has gone by and he is now "ready" for more commitment. Who do I pick? The guy I can't stop thinking about but not sure I can see long term with or the guy that I can envision a stable future with but don't have intense chemistry with?

So me and my long term boyfriend have gotten into a small argument over an upcoming birthday party for one of his family members. Pretty much he wanted me to go with & I told him there’s not many family events I’m going to be attending in the future (except major ones like Christmas, Thanksgiving, etc.) given the fact that every time we go out some where he leaves angry, accusing me of embarrassing him and asking why I said/did certain things. And ultimately being upset that I made him look/feel stupid. He also cares a lot what others think of him (even his own family) which I think stems from his father always calling him dumb when he was growing up. Nonetheless, I am always blindsided and confused as to how we both had two different perceptions of the event. I feel as if everything I said was fine & warranted and friendly reaction from

his family & his thoughts are completely opposite. So am I wrong for not wanting to attend an event that I know will have a bad outcome & diminish my self- esteem?
He is not like this at all when it is just us two or he’s with my family. Also, I told him all of this & his perception is that I don’t want to put in effort, or it’s my own fault for my own insecurities. But at some point in the beginning of our relationship I felt really confident & loved being around his fam.

I also don’t know if I should just give up on us, I have a hard time letting go of things & I already have so much resentment built up that I don't know if I’ll ever look at him the same, especially because he is not very apologetic about the whole situation. I find that shitty, given I put all my effort into making him feel comfortable and good about himself. He has embarrassed me before but I would never think to tell him that.