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I’m seeing a guy long distance 5 months now. We met second time 2 wks ago. People say a guy needs meet family by 6 months.
I want visit this guy at state he lives August and meet his family. But I feel he’ll never ask me to meet his family. I’m not even sure if I’m his girlfriend as he never asked me to be his girlfriend. So all day I’m confused if he’s my boyfriend or not. I also never had a guy ask me to be his girlfriend so I just assume in my head a guys my boyfriend.

I don’t want continue seeing this guy Sep to Dec and I show up alone to the family parties and Christmas show up alone, while my whole family show up with their boyfriend 😔 it’ll mean I’m single. And my boyfriend a ghost.

im sad becuase I really liked this guy and we have a lot in common.

but there’s no point have sex with this guy all year and never progress relationship. I’ll just feel like I’m not a girlfriend 😔 it’ll be same situation like ex guy I dated 7 years and we never met family and he use me for sex

For instance let's say you wanted to have kids (within a timeframe) as one of your goals. This is just an example, though. It can be many. What would be worse:

- Settling for someone you're not passionately in love with but they're compatible with your goals, values, lifestyle, etc. They've been vetted in the dating process and you have come to loving and respecting them. It's just that you're infatuated with him, nor crazily lusting over them and it's not their fault. That person gave you kids at your timeframe and everything you ever wanted.

- Falling in love, being in love with them but realizing you've done a poor selection and didn't even do a vetting process. Either you aren't on the same page on goals, values, lifestyles, etc or they keep on making excuses. For instance you might want kids at a certain time and they keep filling your mind with ''maybe, one day it'll happen'' and they're wasting your time. Ok so you're in love with them but what else? Besides the dates, romance and intimacy, you find yourself unhappy upon realizing you'll never get what you want out of them.

I can think of one example in my life and one example in a friend's life where a guy was interested in her and also another time where a guy was interested in me, when I resisted they pursued but when I pursued, they resisted. I did not date the guy cause he was turned off by the fact I initiated contact but when I avoided him he would sacrifice other events to chase after me, but this was years and years ago.

My cousin says the same thing to her friends that if you want a guy to like you, you should ignore him. I don't know if she still gives advice cause she is at the age where a lot of her friends have settled down and are no longer on dating sites.