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Both involved a cruel person stealing someone's market value. Men and women are obviously valued differently. When it comes to love and relationships or marriage, what's worse?

- A man that promises the world and purposely wastes the woman's time and years. Then when she gets to a certain age, she gets ditched for someone younger. Not only she doesn't get those years back but she's depressed about possibly not being able to have kids anymore. The guy destroyed her years and her motherhood. We are afterall valued for our youth and fertility. Men don't care too much about our careers.

- A golddigger makes it harder for the rest of us to find a good family-oriented man. She uses him with charm but somehow he doesn't realize what she really is like. She got what she wanted and then wants to ditch him for no reason (just that she got bored, that's it), just for monetary incentive. She gets half of what poor man's hard work, destroying his market value he worked hard for.

I really sympathize with both cases. No one deserves getting their market value destroyed by cruel narcissists. Though personally I think the first case is worse. Money can eventually be earned back even if it takes years or longer. However, once we can't have babies anymore, that's not ever gained back, literally never. If our motherhood is taken away, it's forever gone. Money isn't forever gone.

My friend can't ever forgive her parents ever getting disowned for getting pregnant at 18. She's now 32, in a stable marriage, they both own a business and her two kids are both ages 14 and 9.

Her parents all of the sudden are all remorseful and want her back. However, this was her reply back to them ''My biological parents died long ago. Goodbye''. She then proceeded to blocking them.

She can't ever forgive that they didn't give a rats about her life (her 2nd pregnancy nearly cost her life; it got complicated), health, her first child's birth, her wedding, her b-days, etc. She also suspects they're just contacting her only after finding out she's having a good life and wouldn't be reaching out if she was poor and struggling? Her then boyfriend (now husband) took full responsibility and she received support from his parents. They were like a real parents to her. She also imagines that even if she forgives them and were to have them back in her life, she would never forget what they're capable of and that their love was never unconditional, that they would leave her during bad times again.

Would you forgive and give a 2nd chance if you got disowned or not? Personally, I agree with my friend. I would never be able to forgive that.