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"Look at her... she's so pretty!!"
"Why aren't you like your brother, he's smart."

I'm not sure this is just Eastern culture. It seems like complimenting the third person in order to compare your partner, kid or friend is a trick to motivate someone to improve themselves. But does it work?

For me, as the 3rd person, this behavior could bring me troubles, eg. the persons being compared turned to me instead of taking actions to change something about them. I know they're upset and then became rude and criticized me (at the first time we met). That's why I don't feel good when a married man/boyfriend compares their partner with me. It actually causes more self-doubt because I'm still single. Above all, I prefer to have other ladies to be my friends, not enemy.

If you have been compared, how do you feel, REALLY?

Would you confront the person who does so, and tell him or her about your feelings and thoughts?

So my boyfriend keeps talking to a girl that clearly makes me feel uncomfortable. He has been friends with her for three years but I heard from his other friends he had a sexual relationship with her in the past before we got into a relationship. He keeps denying it. She just criticized me and makes fun of me to him. I told him to stop talking to her and he said he would like three times but I keep seeing he keeps talking to her behind my back. Am I overreacting for not wanting him to talk to her and what should I do because he is not respecting what I ask of him.