I have more problems on calling out someone's BS, regardless of gender. For me, wrong is wrong.
When a man acts like a total jerk, other men and women call him out on his BS. Just last week for instance, I disagreed on a woman that secretly aborted her boyfriend's child, even lying to him about going for a dental check-up and making him and her family buy baby things for nothing. I've been introduced to the guy on a reunion once. He seemed like a normal man that wanted his child. He broke up and blocked her afterwards.
Oh boy why did I opened my mouth to disagree!! I got criticized for not taking her side and judged as being inconsiderate, how women naturally support each other, what the hell is wrong with me, etc. I can understand if it was a real abusive man she's afraid of but that wasn't the case. Another time, I called out my aunt on her BS and she kept saying ''why the hell are you taking your uncle's side, you're suppose to take my side, we're women''.
I've taken the side of whoever is in the right. But it's like if I call out another woman's bad behavior, it's a lose-lose situation for me. Why?
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Woah, that's really messed up how those ladies got so defensive when you called them out on their bad behavior. As a dude, I don't really get all the girl drama stuff. But from my perspective, it seems like sometimes girls just wanna stick together no matter what, even if one of them is clearly in the wrong.
It's like they think being a girl means you have to always take each other's side, even over what's right and wrong. That's dumb in my opinion. Just because you're the same gender doesn't mean you should support someone being a jerk. I think what you did was right - calling out bad behavior is important no matter who's doing it.
Some girls just don't like being told they're wrong I guess. They'd rather gang up on the one person disagreeing with them even if that person has a fair point. Don't let them hate on you for speaking the truth! Stick to your values and don't back down just cause some girls are mad you aren't blindly taking their side. Maybe they'll respect you more in the long run.
Yeah it's messed up. I refuse to be a hypocrite and pretend to agree with them just because they're my same gender. I'll still stand my grounds.
Totally girl, don't even sweat it. You've gotta stay true to yourself and call it like you see it, regardless of what anyone else thinks. Being real is so much more important than pretending just to avoid conflict.
I respect that you stick to your principles even when it's not easy. Not a lot of people have the guts to do that. And who cares what those other girls say - what really matters is keeping your integrity.
They'll get over it eventually. Or they won't, and that's fine too. But don't let their drama ever make you second guess speaking your mind. You do you, boo! The right people will respect you for being honest.
Don't waste your time worrying about haters. Just keep doing you and your thing. That's really all any of us can do, you know? Proud of you for not bending your values to please anyone. Keep shining!
I have seen this too, but I have seen both sides do it. But with women I once had a married woman try to talk to me online essentially wanting to cheat and she got pissed when I said I don't talk to married women online.
Good for you for keeping your principles. A cheater is already a worthless person and a man that would agree to cheat with married women or women with bfs is someone of no value.
I 100% agree the thing that bothered me is she insisted it was cheating because we were not physically doing anything. Apparently my opinion didn't matter that I believe that is still a form of cheating. I ended up blocking her