What do I do when I love my boyfriend, but I’m crushing on someone else?

[Anonymous]

I love my boyfriend, but I feel like the other guy could be the one for me. I haven’t cheated on him or anything with the other guy. I am around the other guy at work. This guy does not know I like him, but I believe he likes me. I keep feeling like he could be the one and that he may treat me better than my boyfriend. I just don’t know what to do. I am scared that if I break up with my boyfriend, I may regret it and on the other hand, I’m scared that if I stay with my boyfriend, that he may end up not being the one for me.

Please do not come on this post to criticize or judge. I am only human and sometimes you can’t help the way you feel. But I would like some good advice on what you would do if you were in the situation or what you have done if you have already been in a similar situation.

[ClayClay445]

This has happened to me before. I think it is normal. But at the end of the day I would really think about what you want. For me at that time I should have broken up with my boyfriend, because for me I wasn’t happy in the relationship. And the guy I was crushing on, I felt he would have treated me better. You have to think about what you want to do and what’s best for yourself. Because in the right relationship, you would have no doubts or even a chance to crush on someone else.

[Asker]

What ever happened in your situation? Did you ever end up with the other dude you were crushing on?

[ClayClay445]

Yeah honestly it took me a long time to get out of that relationship. It was really hard. And a year of me being single and 6 years not talking to him, he reached out to me and we are going on a date this week. 😊

[Asker]

Why was it hard to get out out of your past relationship? And how come you and the guy you were crushing on took 6 years to finally go on a date? Lol

[ClayClay445]

Lol! Well we didn’t really talk that much. We did Track together. And after that I was just very involved in my relationship. It was hard to leave because I loved him, but he wasn’t good to me. He told me not to talk to other guys and always got mad if I was too busy with Track. He also made me do things I didn’t want to do. All in all toxic relationship. Then with my crush he just messaged me out of the blue this year.

[slatyb]

"treat me better than my boyfriend" You need to break up with your boyfriend yesterday if not sooner. Being single is better than being mistreated.

[boggboss]

Just end things if u are developing feelings for another guy whilst in a relationship its clearly lacking somthing important

[boggboss]

Like another end of the day if it was your partner writing this comment here what would u want out if this situation yes u state u have not cheated but are thinking that a stranger from work could be the 1 that is pretty much emotional cheating as u are cultivating feelings for another plus the wording u use show u are not happy where u say this other guy can treat u better then your boyfriend with that I feel this relationship has run its course

[Asker]

So it’s not normal to crush on someone else while in a relationship? What do you think my relationship is lacking?

[boggboss]

Crush no finding people attractive is fine but to have a crush mean u are entertaining more then just raw attractiveness u have for them and thinking about things being more thats nit normal as for what your relationship is lacking I have no clue clearly u feel u are treated bad by your partner but again I don't know why

[In_Trance]

talk to your boyfriend about it

[Asker]

That’s hella weird

[In_Trance]

I'm sure he'll feel the same way

[jahaims]

You aren't in love if you are crushing on others