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I get this idea from the newest Neil Labute film "House of Darkness" only I reverse the genders. You recently started dating a hot guy and for the first time you go back to his house, it is out in the middle of nowhere and kind of creepy. You talk with him for a while and you think he lives alone and he kind of gives that impression without actually saying it, but then his brother suddenly appears. The brother is equally hot.

I’m talking about when girls start liking someone they just recently met not someone that they have known for months and just started liking after getting to know them

1. his charm- the way he talks to you, makes you feel

2. his looks- attractive face and body

3. his popularity- who he knows, who knows him

4. his demeanor- first impression of his personality, introvert/extrovert, etc

There is a stereotype that men are more visual and usually have their minds made up with 30 seconds of meeting a woman if they are interested or not.

To a certain extent that’s true. If a girl is a 5 or below to me physically I am not going to be romantically interested no matter what her personality is. That doesn’t mean I won’t treat her respectfully and be friendly (if she’s got a cool personality). I won’t be rude if she happens to show me interest (will politely decline if need be) But I can’t develop feelings.

But I am thinking that many women are more superficial than ever nowadays when it comes to looks (except if they guy is rich and/or famous)

That’s not to say they shouldn’t have standards. I don’t expect a beautiful 22 yr old woman to not reject a chubby balding 35 yr old guy. But I notice that the less attractive a man is to a woman the more difficult, challenging and bitchy she will be to him.

I know this because I’m my 20s most women considered me a 8 to 9 physically. I’ve gotten older and while I am in great shape for my age the truth is most women see me around a 7 now. They are more difficult and rude in dating situations. They ghost more. I am held to a higher standard on my behavior on the first date.

I don’t expect everything to be willy nilly easy like it was when I was 25. But the fact that: “first impression (looks) = likeability = respect” is depressing.