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You know when you have a gut feeling? I’ve been on and off the dating apps for years, it’s come to the point where I’m not as interested & I swipe on matches/reply to msgs every few days. I’ve never had a real relationship, I saw someone for a few months maybe 5 years ago & something told me after I saw him that’d I’d be single for a long time. With him it felt like settling & I refuse to ever be with someone that made me feel like that again.

I had to use dating apps bc I’m not very friendly & I don’t get approached in person. I’m told I’m cute/attractive & I will say I have a very low sex drive (haven’t masturbated or had sex in 5 years). I don’t think this is a huge deal considering this isn’t something that will be an issue that early on, a guy can’t just look at my profile/see me in person & know that right off the bat.

I get matches (never been the issue) but it’s always: ghosting, fizzling out, lack of interest (can go both ways), feelings not reciprocated, just not a good match & some guys are just crazy. I just always have a gnawing feeling like guys aren’t attracted to me, I’d get told once in a while that some guy looked at me/found me cute but they never do anything about it. And I don’t either hence why I’m posting this 🤷🏻‍♀️

TLDR: based off the description, is this something that’s unlucky in love?

You know the saying the good ones are already taken? The good looking ones always are, does that mean I’m not one of the good ones? This post comes across as very defeatist but I’m just being blunt, I’ve been on and off the dating apps for years. I’ve become more and more inactive, I can’t tell if I’m uninterested or burnt out. Getting matches have never been the issue, it’s just working out. I’ve never been approached by the kind of guy I’d actually date, people tell me that guys look at me but they never do anything about it. The ones that do aren’t the types of guys you’d want, don’t want to overthink it either but I have a very low sex drive. I don’t socialize so the apps are the only way, I don’t want kids & think it’s time to come to terms with this. My mom said this a while ago, “if you choose to be single your whole life that was your choice”. That was a bit insensitive & ignorant

27F, it’s odd and just unlucky considering most women don’t have to bat an eye when it comes to dating. I’ve been on and off the apps for years, I’ve recently come to point where I just put minimal effort. Minimal as in sending a message 2-3 days max and swiping on profiles maybe every other week. I’ve spent so much time asking myself what’s wrong with me, even lost and maintained my weight loss over the years and can’t attract a guy I’d want. I get attention and likes but it’s the unrequited/only want hookups/they like me I don’t like them situation. I really don’t think there’s anything wrong with me, I have a low sex drive but that’s more common for women vs men. I find it odd that I couldn’t attract a decent guy where it’s reciprocated and the rest falls into place. Dating apps were my only outlet, I don’t have friends. Atm I’m on hinge, which I’ve heard is one of the better apps. My mom tells me I just haven’t found the right one and maybe that’s the case but can’t help but wonder if there’s more to it? Maybe not

Apparently men today have a lot lower testosterone levels than men in the past. To the young guys on GaG, do you notice it? Symptoms of low testosterone include low sex drive, erectile dysfunction, depressed mood, increased body fat, moodiness, depression, loss of muscular strength, decrease of body hair, gynecomastia.