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Dating fatigue is a normal part of the dating journey. It's important to learn to cope with it rather than letting it defeat you. If you want to have a relationship, there's no reason you can't. You just have to continue to learn, grow, shift your mindset, and take good care of yourself

Research from Hinge also found a significant portion of its users (61%) were overwhelmed by the modern dating process, and an April 2022 US study showed four in five adults “experienced some degree of emotional fatigue or burnout from online dating

By the way... there is someone who says that you should keep meeting people even when you feel emotionally drained... a wise guru... He is considered to be a legend in my eyes now.

I know some of you are going to go off about never using dating apps or trying to find people online period. That’s a separate debate so please don’t bring it up. Not everybody has the time or environment to socialize with singles on a consistent basis.

Anyway I’ve gone real back and forth about ever mentioning sex or even acting flirty with girls I match on dating apps. On one end if she already finds me attractive, is in a good mood and hit her vibe right it can make her more eager to meet up.

However the downside if I just make one wrong comment many women panic and hit the “creep” button. It’s game over and there is little or no room for forgiveness. Often the guy has no idea he’s out. It doesn’t matter if it was an honest mistake or I had no idea she didn’t like a certain comment. Many women just freak.

An even worse scenario is she might just want all virtual sexting and has zero interest in meeting for real. The virtual attention is good enough for her. Most men aren’t satisfied with that. They want to meet someone for real.

Then there is the safe route (and it can be genuine). Just act friendly, funny and don’t mention sex. Many women find this to be non-threatening and are more likely to meet in person.

But a downside with this is she might find me more boring. Some women are deluded/selfish to believe that guys are okay just making “friends” with women on dating apps. Nope. That’s a huge waste of time and effort. That doesn’t mean men are always looking for hook ups. Some of us really want to start a relationship. But there is always at least some romantic interest. Men don’t seek out random women to become “friends” with.

So anyway what’s the best route?

I am turning 28 in a few months, of course nearing my 30s, and I never had a real girlfriend before. I had some online things, but they all rejected me upon meeting in person for the first time. Meanwhile, I have watched all my former friends form serious relationships, get married, and most of them have kids now.

I am not the most attractive guy physically. I am short and overweight I admit. I am also "weird" to a lot of people. I am on the Autistic Spectrum and have mental health issues too.

I haven't touched a girl since I was 20 (back in June 2015). I lost my virginity then to a 16 year old girl who was supposedly a virgin too at the time. I have only had sex exactly once in my lifetime. I have never actually "made love".

It saddens me because all my life I always wanted to have a girlfriend, wife, and kids of my own.

Really, I am seeking a decently attractive woman without a romantic past, but my days are numbered finding that I feel. That is a deal breaker to me. I feel I would be lucky to even find a good woman who has never been married at this point

How many people are there out there like me?
I am 27, turning 28 this year, and I have never been in a real relationship before. The closest I have had is a 5 month online relationship where she rejected me upon meeting the first time in person.

Anyways, the girl I had an online relationship with not long ago is getting married to someone else today. I have been extremely depressed over it for a long time. I have cried so much this past week, I can hardly cry anymore. This guy gets to be her first everything.

I noticed that I don't know anyone personally that is in my shoes. I don't know anyone who has made it to my age without having a serious, long term relationship. In fact, most of my peers I have known growing up are married, have kids, or both.