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Should I just move on?

I was posting stories about how a guy coerced me and then this guy online tried to get close to me in a friendly way then we exchanged pics and he was like OMG you’re my future wife. And he started asking me if I wanted to have this basically D/s relationship with him where he tells me what to eat and wear all the time. Now I agreed and I like being under someone but I know now that I can’t just submit to any old Joe.

So at the time he was talking about how I’m going to be his wife and he soon flew from Chicago to my state. Thinking back I’m like why would he pay for a plane ticket just to lie, pump and dump me when he can easily do the same in his own state. It’s weird.

That’s why I’m questioning what the hell was this all about?

Anyway, we were together for a few days then he flew back to Chicago. He was still talking about how I was going to go to Chicago and move in with him and get married. I started asking about like ‘so when are you going to tell your family about me’ because I didn’t realize he hadn’t… and he said he can’t tell his mom yet because she wouldn’t understand our D/s relationship. I was like ok… but I started getting annoyed because be was being “too busy” (now I know that’s a fake ass excuse), he immediately blocked me EVERYWHERE even on the website we met LOL, and that was a year ago.

What was his whole point? Why did he do all that stuff?

I've known this one guy since HS, I was a freshman & he was a junior (14 years ago). We went to neighbor high schools but were friends on FB. We were really close or so I felt. He was there for me for my first heartbreak my senior year. During that relationship he confessed his feelings for me. After I graduated we hung out a few times at his place never even kissed but we would cuddle. I liked what we had bc I was afraid if we got into a relationship & we didn't workout then I would lose him as a friend too. He meant a lot to me. 3 years passed & I got into another relationship, this one was toxic & I couldnt talk to him much but when my ex & I got into fights I would reach out to him again. I spent the night at his place once too again nothing happened. Then when I was 2 months pregnant I was in a domestic violence situation with my ex & I had nowhere to go so I reached out to him to stay at his place but this time he said no. he was very cold with me. I was so hurt I removed him from socials and didn't speak to him for years. Another 3 years passed & I moved an hour away. He reached out to me wanting to know about my life & if BD was in the picture. He is not. This time he was in a 2y long relationship. I told him I was hurt because he didn't help me when I needed him. he said it was because he was mad at me for being with someone else & having their baby. I mentioned to him I was moving out of state soon so he suggested we meet one last time & said he could drive the hour to me. I said no & used the excuse that we were still freshly into the pandemic. He added me on social media again & then about a year later removed me. I don't know why. So I messaged him & asked if what I posted had offended him, he said no & that was it. But actually it wasn't I figured since that was the end of our friendship I told him I had had feelings for him previously & the reason I never spoke up about it, that I also felt he was all wishy washy with me. (Continued below)