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I hope that my question is chosen as great since I really can use so much support right now.

We are renewing our vows but I would enjoy a courthouse wedding. I don't wanna spend thousands of dollars right now on a huge wedding. Especially not right now, but maybe down the road. My husband and I would love to go to the courthouse to renew our vows. Nevertheless, family members that have been cut off expect an invite still. His mom, siblings, nieces, and nephews are the only ones going to be present. I want a small family only wedding.

While my spouse was away for work, people treated me with disgust and ruined every aspect of my character. My husband was well-known in our neighborhood, but he kept his personal and professional lives apart. He did not bring his real life outside of the home.

We live in a small gossiping community where everyone wants to know your business, and if they don't know anything about your life or you're not a member of their so-called "clique," they'll spread rumors. I stay at home and keep to myself, but that's not enough. This town will continue to spread rumors with "I heard". People in this town will say "Oh, I heard that his water is cut off" if you pee in a garbage can with no one around you. You can go to the store and mind your own business. As soon as you arrive home, someone is going to call you and say, "Girl, I heard you were in the store spending so much money; how are you doing?"

There are people that live in our community that you haven't seen ever before. It is hard to date people here because the gossipers wanna control that as well. The community we live in makes it hard to live here unless they know your business.

I just wanted to express why I want a closed private wedding. I want to live my life in this community without the community interfering with my life and destroying it.

Both involved a cruel person stealing someone's market value. Men and women are obviously valued differently. When it comes to love and relationships or marriage, what's worse?

- A man that promises the world and purposely wastes the woman's time and years. Then when she gets to a certain age, she gets ditched for someone younger. Not only she doesn't get those years back but she's depressed about possibly not being able to have kids anymore. The guy destroyed her years and her motherhood. We are afterall valued for our youth and fertility. Men don't care too much about our careers.

- A golddigger makes it harder for the rest of us to find a good family-oriented man. She uses him with charm but somehow he doesn't realize what she really is like. She got what she wanted and then wants to ditch him for no reason (just that she got bored, that's it), just for monetary incentive. She gets half of what poor man's hard work, destroying his market value he worked hard for.

I really sympathize with both cases. No one deserves getting their market value destroyed by cruel narcissists. Though personally I think the first case is worse. Money can eventually be earned back even if it takes years or longer. However, once we can't have babies anymore, that's not ever gained back, literally never. If our motherhood is taken away, it's forever gone. Money isn't forever gone.