I’m I ungrateful and what should I do?

[MLGbreezy]

Me and my family have never had the most but we’ve never had it the hardest either. I’m not starving to death like some child in Africa but we definitely had our struggles. I’m 25 working a dead end retail job. My mom is old she worked two jobs most of her life and is at the point where she just can’t do it anymore even her doctor is telling her that. But I have issues with my mother, she’s greedy when it comes to money she’s had a falling out with other family members because of this and on top of that she makes dumb decisions and is bad with money. I’m living with her an my brothers we bought a house last year and we are constantly in a state of wondering how we’re gonna pay for it come the next month. My thing is I want to leave I want to be on my own and my younger brothers feel the same to the point where we’d thoughts about getting an apartment together. But ik my mom wouldn’t be able to pay this house alone obviously and we barely are doing that now as it is. My older brothers told me if I stayed with my mom and don’t get out early I’ll always be broke well I’m broke been this way for years and I got no clue what to do? Should I do what’s best for me or what?

[SweetJoyGirl]

Oh, hun.

You need to leave, as in move states. Your state is not the best in terms of being able to make it on minimum wage. You and I both know that.
So, is the house she bought the one they were building? What happened to the one they were building? I am so confused.

You need to leave and start your own life. You can’t help her if you stay there broke. 😭

[MLGbreezy]

Hey we haven’t talked in a while and yea it’s the same house but that’s just the issues we can’t afford the renovations because of her actually when we first got the house we told her to get a contractor so we could do it since we all had good credit but she wouldn’t listen and wouldn’t let us get one. Now we still can’t afford to pay to fix up the house properly we can’t get a contractor now cause are credits been destroyed by missed house payments and I want out but I don’t want to abandon my mom and I don't know what to do i love my mom and I want to help but I’m 25 and I feel like ever since I’ve started working I’ve just been giving and getting nowhere

[SweetJoyGirl]

Hold up, let me text you.

[MLGbreezy]

Okay

[Anonymous]

Make sure your mother is ok then work on improving your own life. Get into a position where all of you together can pay her bills and afford your own place, but make sure you're nearby to help her when she needs it.

[Opinion Owner]

And learn about gratitude and how to use it, if you are grateful it will get you out of your dead-end job and get you the things you want.

https://youtu.be/SLx9rL2DEfE

[CuriousHubby]

Your doomed if you do and doomed if you don't!

Tell you this much! You will probably get a girlfriend being away from your mom's!

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If she is greedy she won't like her taking you from her! Less money for her

[MLGbreezy]

It’s terrible me and my brothers are in our 20s my younger brother has a good friend who’s doing really well for himself and my brother spends a lot of time at his house sometimes he’ll spend nights there and my mother hates it going so far as to call aunts and uncles to call my brother to tell him to stop hanging out with that friends so often

[MLGbreezy]

We aren’t working the best jobs but she expects us to always give I’ve been desperately trying to save for a car since she won’t help me and she always on my case about not giving money to help with bills and I feel bad sometimes but what about me I need a vehicle especially at 25

[MLGbreezy]

Girls aren’t really a big issue and either the economy the way it is currently a lot of people my age are still staying with there parents but I also get how it looks despite those facts it’s not the fact I’m staying with my mom but everything else on top not having a car and working retail with no real direction it’s just a bad look

[MLGbreezy]

Honestly I’ve been thinking that once I get a car I’ll just go live in that till I can save up get a better job and get on track

[Juxtapose]

You should move out because you are not her keeper.