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There are a few times out of curiosity I’ve approached heavier girls and even though they were traditionally not very pretty there was something intangible about them I found attractive.

Surprisingly these girls were actually extremely bitchy when I gave them keen but innocent attention. The attention wasn’t sexual but of intense curiosity that might become sexual.

Anyway they got bizarre deluded sense of pride that they just had to play “hard to get”. Yet I would have no problem walking the second I felt a shit test happening. Admittedly attractive women are much more likely to get away with playing games with me (but I know where to draw the line). But it’s like a unattractive woman thinks that acting bitchy somehow puts her on par with the very pretty girls she is so jealous of.

I remember years ago I went to get a few drinks with a girl I didn’t find attractive at all. I’m not sure how it started by she ended up going mega bitch and saying something really nasty.

Then next day she messaged me and apologize profusely. She begged me for a second chance. I told her I felt better she apologized but I wasn’t interested in hanging out again. She sadly wished me best of luck and I did likewise.

But anyway why do these unattractive often self sabotage the few rare opportunities they do have to date a decent looking guy who gave them attention? Does the feeling of deluded pride of being “able to turn someone down because I think I am hot and have options” more satisfying then actually having a real tangible rare opportunity with someone?

I know no fat guy would turn down a woman who is a 7 or above. But why would a BBW woman turn down the same vice versa?

Women are notorious for sending mixed messages and “shit testing” men. They say something is okay when it really isn’t. They want to see if the guy is self controlled and wise enough to pass the test.

However there are a few scenarios men are guilty of this as well. I can think of only two scenarios where men unfairly “shit test” women.

Shit Test #1: He pressures her to have sex early. She gives it up and he then later loses respect for her.

A lot of men judge women for being promiscuous/easy. If she initiating random sex with lots of guys that’s one thing. But if a guy pressures her to do it and she gives in (and enjoys it) then he really has no right to judge her. It was all his idea.

Yet there are some men who do this and frankly it’s a double standard bs. I actually stayed in long term relationships with all three of my past gfs despite having sex with all on them within 3 dates. One ex girlfriend said she would of done it on our first date (we did on the second) if I initiated. But I am actually glad I didn’t.

Shit Test #2: Telling her you don’t mind if she hangs out and talks (a lot) with other guys including exes. However when she does the man gets angry/jealous.

Jealousy is a tricky bastard. On one end a very controlling man is extremely insecure. He gets pissed off if another guy looks to long at his girlfriend or tries to chat with her (often the other guy doesn’t know she’s taken). It can actually be a compliment when other guys check out your girlfriend/wife JUST as long they are respectful about it. But when they cross a line it deserves an ass kicking.

On the flip side some guys seemingly don’t mind at all of their girlfriend/wife hang out with other guys and even do more with them. It’s like they are somehow demonstrating they aren’t controlled by jealousy.

But the truth is some guys “say” it’s alright when deep down they are not at all okay with it. It’s there way of “testing” their girlfriend/wife to make sure they really love them.

In general I notice women tend to casually throw “oh he’s my friend” or “we’re friends” more quickly and easily then men do in similar social interactions. Guys usually are much more careful on who we become real friends with vs. just being friendly. There is a difference.

The acid test is this. Could you give the keys to your house and trust this person to go into your room when you’re away? I could trust a friend but not someone I’m just “friendly” with. Also how far would you go out of your way to help this person.

You can be “friendly” with the following types of people but real friends:

- an ex boyfriend/girlfriend.
- a neighbor (in most circumstances)
- an authority figure
- someone who’s attracted to you but you don’t feel the same about them (or vice versa)
- an acquaintance you just met.

Why is that women particularly young women are so quick to throw out “we’re friends” label when they have not yet built up real trust and/or loyalty to the other person? When men hear another man say this it’s confirmation some real trust/respect is established between each other. But women will throw this out without really being at that point yet.